Covert Narcissistic Ex Nearly Destroyed Our Children

Maddie’s Story: How My Covert Narcissistic Ex Nearly Destroyed Our Children

Covert Narcissistic Ex Nearly Destroyed Our Children

 

In part one and part two of my story, I discuss how I no longer feel responsible for his behavior and, how I found it so easy to fall in love with him. Today I want to discuss how my covert narcissist destroyed our children.

I guess I should say, nearly destroyed because, thankfully, for them, I was always there to guide them through the damage he did to them. Even with my guidance and love, the damage is there and will last their entire lifetime.

There is nothing more heart wrenching than having no recourse against someone who is doing grave emotional harm to your children. If a stranger had done what their father did, I would have had recourse. But, since it was their father, the family court system turned a blind eye to his behavior.

It started from the beginning, the very beginning before I even knew there would be a divorce.

I’m sharing this information in bullet points in order to keep my thoughts straight and not running together. We’ve been divorced for nearly 2 decades, there is no way I can share the entire story but, these are issues I remember as being the most damaging.

How My Covert Narcissistic Ex Nearly Destroyed Our Children

  • He made the decision to divorce without a discussion with me. One day he was there, the next he was gone. Here is how he told our children before he ever told me. He went to our older son’s school and checked him out of school. He told our son, to not ask him any questions, to get in the car and he would explain after they picked up our younger son. He then went to our younger son’s school and checked him out. Once they were all in the car, the boys in the backseat, he turned, looked at them and said, “Your Mom and I are getting divorced. I’m leaving and never coming home.” Needless to say, our sons became very emotional. They thought they came from a happy home and family. He had just dropped a bomb on them. They begged and pleaded for an explanation, but he refused to look at or respond to their questions and evident distress. He pulled up into the driveway or our home and told them to get out. He left them standing in the driveway, crying with our youngest who was six at the time, writhing on the ground.

 

  • He didn’t see the children for a month after that and when he did, he was only interested in spending time with our youngest. When our oldest son, asked him why he never invited him to visit his father told him, “because I have a deeper bond with your little brother. “I think I love him more than I love you.” I told him he couldn’t take one without taking both, that I would not allow him to ignore the needs of our older son. So, he began visiting with both boys. The problem? Both boys had questions about why he left, why he was doing what he was doing. He refused to answer their questions or allow them to ask questions. He said, “I won’t have my time with you marred by unpleasant conversation.”

 

  • Our oldest eventually stopped going on visitations with him and requested his Dad join him in therapy to work through their “relationship issues.” His Dad refused therapy together but said he would see our son’s therapist on his own when he had time. When asked by our son why he didn’t want to go with him, he responded with, “I don’t owe you anything, not my time, not my feelings, NOTHING.” That’s when our oldest son gave up on his father.

 

  • It’s been 14 years since he’s had a conversation or spent any time with our oldest son. My ex has a DIL and granddaughter that he has never met and, given his actions must not have an interest in meeting. He also has a grown son who is in therapy to deal with the damage done by a father who abandoned him.

 

  • My ex continued to visit with our youngest son. He saw him once a month. No phone calls, email or contact between those once a month visits. Our younger son would email and text him, but he never got a response. He asked his Dad to call on Tuesday nights to help him study for spelling tests. His father refused. He asked his Dad to help him build a car for the Boy Scout’s Pinewood Derby, his father refused.

 

  • Three years after our divorce my ex became seriously involved in a relationship with a woman who had an older daughter. That is when he completely cut off our younger son. He had no communication or face-to-face contact with your youngest or oldest sons for six years.

 

  • When our younger son was 16, he had a psychotic break. He was hospitalized and diagnosed with PTSD and Bi-Polar Disorder. His medical records state “Psychosis due to parental abandonment.” According to the Psychiatrist our son needed his father. The Psychiatrist called my ex and my ex told him that there was nothing he could do to help. That what was going on was my fault, not his. How could it be his fault because he hadn’t seen the kid is six years. The psychiatrist told him that, that was exactly why our son was having issues. My ex hung up on him.

 

  • It’s been another 8 years with no contact from their father. Since the day he left the marriage he has not sent a Christmas gift, Birthday gift, attended a graduation, wedding or acknowledge the important things in their lives.

I’m happy to report that both sons are flourishing. They are stable, ethical men. Both have great careers and one has a lovely family. The majority of their day-to-day lives are lived without thought of their Dad and what he did to them.

They both, however, are in therapy. One is on medication he’ll take for the rest of his life and neither will be rid of the scars left by a covert narcissistic father who discarded them as if they were dirt on his shoes.

The Family Courts and Emotional Abuse of a Child

You can protect your child via the courts if they’re being emotionally abused. You can request a custody evaluation, get a Guardian Ad Litem for them, or a psyche evaluation. There is nothing you can do via the courts to protect a child from abandonment by a father.

Google, “Legally forcing a man to visit his children” and you’ll come up with nothing. I came up with one article that said, “visitation is a privilege, not a legal responsibility?” Since a man who abandons his children isn’t breaking any laws there is no way to hold them legally responsible for the damage done by their abandonment.

That’s why I tell other mothers who are dealing with the damage done by such fathers that it’s up to them to clean up the mess to the best of their ability. It’s up to all us mothers who’ve watched a narcissistic father damage his children to do our best to cushion the damage being done.

We can’t fill the hole left by an absent father. That isn’t within our power. We can let our children know that we are their “ride or die.” We can promote their emotional wellbeing by enlisting friends and relatives to show them love and support.

If you’re lucky you’ve got a brother or father who can step in and take up some of the slack and become surrogate fathers. It still won’t fill that hole left by the father but, there is never too much love and caring given to children who’ve been abandoned.

I was thinking about the Catholic church the other day and how suits can be filed by people who were molested by Priests. My hope is that one day, adults who were abandoned by a parent will have the same right to sue that parent for punitive damages. It won’t make them whole again or undo the damage but, I can think of nothing better than legally punishing a parent who skipped out on their children.

Protect your children, Mamas! You are their lifeline. You are their hope. You are all that stands between them and their narcissistic father.

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Demand to AOC for removal of corrupt Head of Bergen Family Court, Judge Peter J. Melchionne

Demand to AOC for removal of corrupt Head of Bergen Family Court, Judge Peter J. Melchionne

“The Godfather”
played by pedophile-lovin Judge Peter J. Melchionne, Head of the Bergen Family Court

In a complaint letter and addendum filed this past week with Glenn Grant, J.A.D., Acting Administrative Director of the Administrative Office of the Courts (AOC) in New Jersey, New York mother Karin Wolf is demanding the removal of Judge Peter J. Melchionne, the Presiding Judge of the Bergen County Family Court in the State of New Jersey, and calls for an investigation into the matter.

According to Wolf, “What New Jersey needs is a public task force hearing like the one they did in Connecticut in 2014, where parents testified over the course of 14 hours about the perversions of family court.”

Ratings on Judge Peter J. Melchionne from The Robing Room:

Ms. Wolf posits that the State of New Jersey had no compelling state interest to prevent her kids from leaving the State and returning to her, as the children became domiciled by operation of law with her in the State of New York upon her ex-husband’s death in April 2018. Ms. Wolf says the State of New Jersey has once again, violated her fundamental rights embedded in the United States Constitution and that this case is ripe for a 5.1 constitutional challenge in the federal court.

Some background of the case – In 2013, Karin lost her kids after years of being denied legal representation by the State of New Jersey, including the Bergen Family Court dismissing her attorney 15 minutes prior to trial, forcing her to proceed unrepresented, violating her Due Process rights; and the Appellate Division blocking her from perfecting an appeal by allowing the Office of the County Counsel to deny her free transcripts, which they were required to do pursuant to a U.S. Supreme Court precedent. In 2014, Judge Gerald C. Escala, known for taking a bribe in the Denike v. Cupo case, retaliated against Karin for filing a grievance against him and trying to protect her kids, barring Karin from contact with her kids.

In 2014, Karin sued the Office of the County Counsel in federal court and it was reprimanded by a federal judge. In that case, James X. Sattely, Esq. represented the Office of the County Counsel as a defendant; and Judge Bonnie J. Mizdol, now Head of the Bergen Court, was also a defendant.

James X. Sattely is now a judge in the Bergen County Criminal Court, who has, in a major conflict of interest, presided over Karin’s recent criminal case, where she’s being vilified (as the only living parent) for picking up her 14-year-old daughter during the summer of 2018 in North Carolina, for safety reasons, when the girl ran away from her stepmother Luciana Coutinho-Crane, whom the child alleges physically abused, sexually harassed, and medically neglected her.

In the fall of 2017, Karin’s young teenage daughter disclosed that her stepmother Luciana Coutinho-Crane was physically abusing her, leaving bruises on the child and spitting in her food; and that Coutinho-Crane’s father, Plinio Coutinho, kicked her and was exposing Karin’s kids to pornography; and that the child’s father, Edward Crane, was ignoring the problem and coercing the child to keep quiet, threatening her with foster care. As we’ve seen as customary for child protective services agencies throughout the U.S. in promoting abuse and pedophilia, the New Jersey Department of Child Protection and Permanency (DCPP, formerly known as DYFS) covered it up and let it fester.

“Cunt-ho the Wicked”
played by Luciana Coutinho-Crane
(Sadistic Stepmother whom child says abused her and exposed her to pornography)

Concerned for her children’s safety and morality, and placed in an untenable predicament, Ms. Wolf began checking up on the kids and seeking alternatives to Bergen County Family Court’s corruption.

In October 2017, Edward Crane (who had threatened to shoot his ex-wife Karin in the past) chased Karin in the car through the streets and highway spanning five towns in Bergen and Passaic counties, toting what is believed to be a gun. Karin called 911, and a police pursuit ensued.

Karin got a restraining order in her home state of New York and filed domestic violence criminal complaints against Edward in both Bergen and Passaic. Judge Meola in Passaic County found probable cause on four counts and scheduled an arraignment. On the other hand, Kimberly McWilliams of the Glen Rock Municipal Court (Bergen), either ill-trained or without smarts to know the difference between a civil complaint and a criminal one, refused to file the domestic violence criminal complaint, insisting Karin go to the Bergen Courthouse to file for a civil restraining order (despite Karin reiterating she already had one from New York – this did not compute).

Det. Sgt. James Calaski of the Glen Rock Police threatened Karin, saying that the State of New Jersey would not enforce her restraining order, despite federal law saying it must. Audio of the 911 call she placed on the day of the incident also revealed Chief Dean Ackerman of the Glen Rock Police victim-shaming her on the tape. Karin then filed criminal complaints against Calaski and Ackerman, as well as misconduct complaints with Internal Affairs.

For more on the sins of the Glen Rock Police Department, see heading below, “A Culture of Troglodytes in Glen Rock.”

On April 12, 2018, Karin brought Coutinho-Crane’s alleged abuse to the attention of Judge Melchionne of Bergen County Family Court and filed for a change of venue. Four days later on April 16th, Karin Wolf’s ex-husband Edward Crane died, and Karin Wolf became the sole surviving custodial parent.

Mr. Crane’s short-term wife, Luciana Coutinho-Crane hid the death from Karin for nearly a week. Officers at GRPD (buddies of Edward Crane) refused to assist Karin get her kids back peacefully, also revealing they’re without smarts to understand what a restraining order looks like.

In an effort to swindle the kids’ 2 million dollar inheritance, Coutinho-Crane then ran down to the courthouse to file for custody of Karin’s kids claiming to be the their “psychological mother” (whatever that is), employing Meyerson, Fox, Mancinelli, & Conte, P.C., a law firm Karin had used in the past in her custody case with her ex-husband Edward Crane. Meyerson, Fox, Mancinelli, & Conte, P.C. failed to properly notify Karin, serve her with the petition, or the Order.

Brazilian native Coutinho-Crane claims Karin is unfit for exercising her First Amendment Rights blogging about political corruption (particularly in Bergen Court), posting on social media, and founding a non-profit called Women’s Civil Liberties Union. Of course, this was too luscious to resist, as the Bergen Court was given a self-serving opportunity to further retaliate against Karin, and did so by granting Coutinho-Crane, a Brazilian citizen, full custody of Karin’s two biological children; as well as a convenient politically-motivated Gag Order on Karin.

Meyerson, Fox, Mancinelli, & Conte, P.C. also represented Edward Crane in the criminal proceedings at the beginning of 2018 and have not been forthcoming about their involvement with the Cranes and their previous involvement with Ms. Wolf.

On the record, Karin asked Judge Melchionne why her dead ex-husband’s name was handwritten onto the initial April 24, 2018 order as a co-defendant. Judge Melchionne stated he didn’t know – didn’t know what he was signing, if he did indeed sign it. Several orders in the case show inconsistency of the signatures. Also, Melchionne was at a judicial conference out of state that day, not sitting on the bench.

Meyerson, Fox, Mancinelli & Conte, P.A. was, at that point, illegally representing both the Plaintiff and a defendant in the case.

Brian Shea, Esq. of Meyerson, Fox, Mancinelli & Conte, P.A. disqualified himself, but is MFMC is still representing the decedent Edward Crane in the case.

As Karin states in the Addendum letter:

“…in the process of my deceased former husband becoming a co-defendant on April 24, 2018, Meyerson, Fox, Mancinelli & Conte, P.A. was immediately required to disclose their representation of my former husband Edward Crane earlier in the year, withdraw as counsel, and withdraw the pleadings. This business of ‘file now, get orders signed, and ask questions later (IF anyone finds out)’ is not only unethical, but downright illegal.”

The case is ripe with Due Process violations and conflicts of interest.

“In essence, this is a de facto adoption without procedural protections in place, which I have repeatedly documented and stated on the record.” – Karin Wolf, Letter to AOC

As usual, Judge Melchionne appointed his mistress Valerie Solimano, Esq. as Guardian ad Litem (GAL). This appearance of impropriety has sent tongues wagging in Bergen – because you know, there’s only so many times you can hear that story about Richard Gere and the gerbil…

“The Favourite Court-esan”
played by Valerie Solimano, Esq.
(Melchionne’s Mistress, appointed GAL on every case)

On May 7, 2018, Karin filed a civilian criminal complaint against Melchionne, Solimano, Coutinho-Crane, and several officers at the GRPD, for kidnapping, extortion, and official misconduct. At that point, Melchionne was required to recuse himself.

According to Karin’s daughter, Coutinho-Crane and her dirty-old-man-of-a-father were still abusing her. This led to the child running away while on vacation in North Carolina and asking her mother to rescue her. Again, Karin was placed in an untenable predicament. Mother and child checked in with the police in Virginia and all was ok. Then, Ms. Coutinho called her buddies at Glen Rock Police Department to do her bidding in issuing a fake arrest warrant for the incident, which didn’t happen in New Jersey. No jurisdiction, but as we’ve seen, Bergen County just does what it wants, in martial law fashion.

At the time of her arrest, Karin’s criminal complaint was still pending against Judge Melchionne, Coutinho-Crane, and several officers at the GRPD. Certainly Ms. Wolf’s arrest and incarceration conveniently prevented her from testifying against them.

Within five days of the child running away, Coutinho-Crane stated she didn’t even want Karin’s daughter back. So much for her claim as the “psychological mother.” Apparently, having custody of the boy is enough to milk the trust fund, which together with the Bergen Court players in the case, have raided and plundered the children’s trust fund upwards of 300K. The case has employed about a dozen lawyers, GAL’s, doctors, and other family court leeches.

“The Troll” or “Jayba the Hutt”
played by family court leech Jay Atkins, Esq.
(attorney for Wicked Stepmother)

Despite no finding of unfitness, abuse or neglect against Karin, the Bergen Court placed her daughter in foster care, on a case stemming from a case opened by the State of Connecticut against Coutinho-Crane for abuse and neglect, which New Jersey is gaslighting.

DCPP has been up to its old tricks again, taking people’s kids without basis, attempting to make a case when none exists, calling it “permanency” under the controversial Adoption and Safe Families Act of 1997 (ASFA). CPS’ diabolical tactics are described in the book Legally Kidnapped: The Case Against Child Protective Services by Carlos Morales, a former CPS worker and whistleblower.

The UK equivalent of the ASFA is The Child Act of 1989, the subject of the documentary, England’s Stolen Children, originally aired in France as Les enfants volés d’Angleterre.

The Adoption and Safe Families Act is one of the biggest frauds perpetrated on taxpayers and families in America. The ASFA was part of welfare reform, but instead redirected the monies going to single mothers, to incentivizing government agencies like DCPP and family courts to use Orwellian methods to steal kids, including putting hospital holds on babies for predictive neglect. In the UK, The Child Act has prompted pregnant women into running to Ireland and France to give birth.

Passage of the Act was pushed by Republican Newt Gingrich in collaboration with Ron Haskins of the Brookings Institution, as well as Democrat Hilary Clinton.

Along with the ASFA, the Healthy Marriage and Responsible Fatherhood Act enables the State to steal children from their mothers in progressive Handmaid’s Tale fashion. First, remove the child(ren) from their mother, incentivized by federal money given to family court through the Fatherhood Initiative, then if the father dies, take the kids again via the ASFA. This is exactly what is happening to Karin Wolf and her children.

The number of states now enacting anti-abortion laws is not surprising, as the business of misogyny via the Fatherhood Initiative and the ASFA are the pre-cursors. When Sarah Ragle Weddington, the attorney representing Roe in Roe v Wade was arguing before the U.S. Supreme Court, she argued that pregnancy impacts a woman’s ability to attend school, work certain jobs and ultimately, succeed.

In an American climate of mass incarceration issues and criminalizing motherhood, white male privilege lawmakers aim at using these new anti-abortion laws as a means to control and incarcerate women.

The Sarah Ragle Weddington’s of today might argue the custody and adoption issues women have been facing in recent years are a reason why women should not be forced to carry a pregnancy that could have serious implications and circumstances down the road, like being jailed for protecting their child(ren) from abuse (as in Karin’s case), or facing a custody battle initiated by their rapist.

The State of New Jersey has subjected Karin and her kids to a rigamarole of absurd processes that violate their fundamentally and constitutionally protected right to be a family. The U.S. Supreme Court has repeatedly stated the State can’t take people’s kids away absent a finding of abuse or neglect.

Karin states that DCPP has violated her and her children’s ADA and HIPAA rights. She states that DCPP is threatening to terminate her parental rights, yet has purposely failed to schedule many of the unnecessary reunification services it is requiring for her daughter to be returned to her.

“What this really is, is punishment for suing the State of New Jersey and exposing corruption in Bergen County. Donald Trump and David Duke can raise their children, but not me?”

In The Corrupt Business of Child Protective Services, former Georgia congresswoman Nancy Schaefer, who was curiously murdered (along with her husband and her documentary filmmaker, believed to be for exposing CPS corruption), stated:

“…that parenting classes, anger management classes, counseling referrals, therapy classes and on and on are demanded of parents with no compassion by the system even while they are at work and while their children are separated from them. This can take months or even years and it emotionally devastates both children and parents. Parents are victimized by “the system” that makes a profit for holding children longer and “bonuses” for not returning children…”

Schaefer also stated:

“State Departments of Human Resources (DHR) and affiliates are given a baseline number of expected adoptions based on population. For every child DHR and CPS can get adopted, there is the bonus of $4,000 or $6,000. But that is only the beginning figure in the formula in which each bonus is multiplied by the percentage that the State has managed to exceed its baseline adoption number. Therefore States and local communities work hard to reach their goals for increased numbers of adoptions for children in foster care . . . [and] there is double dipping.”

“The funding continues as long as the child is out of the home. There is funding for foster care, then when a child is placed with a new family, then “adoption bonus funds” are available. When a child is placed in a mental health facility and is on 16 drugs per day, like two children of a constituent of mine, more funds are involved and so is Medicaid; as you can see this program is ordered from the very top and run by Health and Human Resources. This is why victims of CPS get no help from their legislators.”

DCPP and the Bergen Court also purposefully excluded Karin from the Child Placement Review Board hearing at the beginning of the case, and attempted to exclude her from an Internal Placement Review (IPR).

Karin also states that DCPP had a psychologist, Dr. Marc Singer, who is an ex-cop, violate her rights under the ADA/ADAAA and interrogate her about the underlying criminal matter, without a lawyer present, causing her to invoke her Fifth Amendment right and abruptly leave the evaluation.

DCPP and the Bergen Court are pushing a report from pen-for-hire Dr. Allywyn Levine, an evaluator who attempted to diagnose her under the DSM-V, without meeting or speaking to Karin even once. That report was commissioned by Valerie Solimano, who is aligned with the stepmother, because hey, when you are a litigant who has brought 2 million dollars to the table, why not be rewarded? No surprise, that report says Karin’s daughter should go to foster care (why DCPP loves it) or be shipped off to boarding school, with, wait for it….Coutinho-Crane in charge of all the money.

“The Hired Handjob”
played by pen-for-hire Dr. Allwyn Levine
(Psychologist who fraudulently diagnosed Ms. Wolf without ever meeting or speaking with her)

A significant portion of that money and the children’s status was subject to a divorce agreement between Karin and Edward, which he violated.

Karin also states that the public defender the Office of Parental Representation of the State of New Jersey appointed for her is useless, an ornament placed there by the State. Karin’s attorney, Michael Lamolino, Esq. refuses to assert her rights, including Karin’s demands that he prepare and file a written answer to the initial Order to Show Cause filed by Attorney General, and his refusal to make a Motion to Recuse Judge Melchionne when Melchionne has violated the ADA and has remained on Karin’s cases, despite her criminal complaint against him. In fact, the New Jersey handbook for public defenders specifically bars public defenders from zealous representation of the parents they are representing.

Judge Melchionne’s tyranny is such that Karin’s private attorney in the custody case, Louis Lamatina, Esq., also refused to make a Motion to Recuse Judge Melchionne, so as not to provoke, “Judge Melchionne’s ire.” This is common for family law attorneys who don’t want to “upset the apple cart” so as not to encounter problems in their careers down the road.

Karin said she had to write Judge Melchionne directly on February 13, 2019, demanding his recusal and refusing to sign a coerced financial settlement at that point. This incensed Melchionne, who retaliated by appointing a GAL for Karin, so that she could no longer make decisions in her case, including firing her attorney Lou Lamatina, Esq.

“Accordingly, I refused to solidify a financial settlement in the case. In retaliation, Judge Melchionne appointed a GAL for me without a finding of mental unfitness. Moreover, I have not been supplied with any handbook or set of State guidelines as to what GAL’s can and cannot do. Therefore, the appointment of all GAL’s for my children and me is void for vagueness.”

Lydia Tatekawa and Lavar Parker, two social workers at DCPP, have been illegally tampering with a witness, relentlessly trying to convince Karin’s daughter she was “kidnapped” by her only parent. Enlisted by the Bergen Prosecutor’s Office to manipulate the case for the State, and harboring a Napoleon complex, Tatekawa’s shady tactics are obsessive, akin to Inspector Javert of Les Misérables or the Spanish Inquisition. The daughter, now 15-years-old (almost 16), has maintained throughout that she ran away to escape the stepmother’s abuse, asked her mother to pick her up, and checked in with the police in Virginia. Karin’s daughter has gotten feisty with Tatekawa and told her off, along with Karin’s brother telling Tatekawa to f–k off. This sent Tatekawa’s knickers in a twist, and further lodged the bug up her ass. Mon dieu!…Confess! Confess! Karin has not, in fact, been charged with kidnapping.

“Inspector Javert”
played by Lydia Tatekawa, Adoption Supervisor and Gaslighter

Tatekawa and Parker are also relentless in attempting to convince Karin’s daughter that Karin is mentally ill, despite a psych eval that says she’s not.

Recently, Judge Melchionne has jumped on that bandwagon, gaslighting Karin’s daughter and lying to her. As Godfather of the Bergen County Family Court, he must maintain the RICO enterprise.

As Schaefer stated:

“…caseworkers and social workers are oftentimes guilty of fraud. They withhold evidence. They fabricate evidence and they seek to terminate parental rights. However, when charges are made against them, the charges are ignored…”

“…the separation of families is growing as a business because local governments have grown accustomed to having taxpayer dollars to balance their ever-expanding budgets…”

DCF/DCPP is required to place the child(ren) with relatives first, yet in the case of Karin’s daughter, DCPP refuses to place the child with her only living biological and beloved grandmother, Karin’s mom, who helped raise Karin’s kids for many years while Karin worked.

As Schaefer stated:

“…relatives are contacted, but there are cases that prove differently. Grandparents who lose their grandchildren to strangers have lost their own flesh and blood. The children lose their family heritage and grandparents, and parents too, lose all connections to their heirs.”

Schaefer stated:

“…the incentive for social workers to return children to their parents quickly after taking them has disappeared and who in protective services will step up to the plate and say, “This must end! No one, because they are all in the system together and a system with no leader and no clear policies will always fail the children. Look at the waste in government that is forced upon the tax payer…”

Despite the Gag Order, Karin Wolf has gone public with her story, as is her First Amendment right. Several years ago, the U.S. District Court, District of New Jersey, struck down a family court Gag Order as unconstitutional.

As Schaefer stated:

“…Child Protective Service and Juvenile Court can always hide behind a
confidentiality clause in order to protect their decisions and keep the funds flowing. There should be open records and “court watches”! Look who is being paid!”

A Culture of Troglodytes in Glen Rock

Glen Rock is an affluent suburban town fostering the Future Brock Turners of America movement and breeding future Handmaids. It’s a town that would rather not acknowledge domestic violence happens there nor have any “incidents” on their records, especially when the perpetrator is a white male.  According to the teenage male population there, girls are “bitches and ho’s” and “feminist pieces of shit.”  According to teenage female population at the school, Principal John Arlotta of Glen Rock High School (who has repeatedly covered up child abuse at his school) completely misses the mark on the #MeToo incidents happening or otherwise brewing at the school.

“The Brock Turner”
played by Dean Ackerman, Glen Rock Chief of Police
(promoted to position AFTER sexually assaulting his co-worker)

In Brock Turner fashion, the Borough of Glen Rock promoted Chief Dean Ackerman to his current position after sexually assaulting his female co-worker, who sued the Borough.  Officer Matthew Stanislao also sued the borough in October 2014, after being sexually harassed by several officers at the Glen Rock Police Department for being gay, then was fired.  #MeToo

Then there is the 2015 incident where the Head of the Juvenile Division, Det. Sgt. Eric Reamy (then 51) was convicted of child endangerment for sexting a 14-year-old girl and a 17-year-old girl he’d been assigned to supervise.  Those girls have now sued the Borough.  #MeToo

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Alissa Sherry Review: One Star

Self-verified patient of Dr. Alissa Sherry – Posted on March 16th, 2018

The ratings on all the sites speak for themselves! She is a danger to children and the family unit. Following what ever the Guardian ad litems suggest to them. Never interviewing the children or using collateral sources including other professionals involved. A total whitewash bias job. Also a fabricator and liar.

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Task Force Member: Might be a Year-Long Thing

Task Force Member: Might be a Year-Long Thing

Connecticut Task Force 12 10 13

Click on above link for Connecticut Task Force December 10, 2013 video

For the last two months, Connecticut has held open meetings to find better ways protect children in that state’s family courts.

Although the original plan was to have the study done by January, task force member Ms. Jennifer Verraneault says, “It might be a year-long thing.” 

As Ms. Verraneault spoke those words, most task force members probably dreaded the thought of volunteering their time for an extended period. Yet every few weeks, the task force meets, and another can of worms opens – with reasons to continue the study for as long as it takes. 

According to Connecticut Special Act No. 13-24, the task force is to study: 

(1) the role of a guardian ad litem and the attorney for a minor child in any action involving parenting responsibilities and the custody and care of a child,

(2) the extent of noncompliance with the provisions of subdivision (6) of subsection (c) of section 46b-56 of the general statutes and the role of the court in enforcing compliance with said subdivision, and

(3) whether the state should adopt a presumption that shared custody is in the best interest of a minor child in any action involving the custody, care and upbringing of a child.

Such study shall include, but not be limited to, an examination of state statutes applicable to an action involving the custody, care and upbringing of a child, and the costs associated with contested divorce actions, including, but not limited to, expert witness fees and attorneys’ fees including the fees of guardians ad litem and attorneys for the minor children. Such study may include recommendations for legislation on matters studied by the task force.

Another can opened this past Tuesday, when Co-Chair Sharon Wicks Dornfeld spoke about her knowledge of  the use of “Private Special Masters” to hide tax fraud in Connecticut family courts.

She told the group:

 “There are some individuals — I can think of several retired judges — who are, make themselves available to serve as private Special Masters, but it is not a volunteer thing. It is a program in which the parties pay them and whatever their agreed upon hourly rate is.

Uh, there have also been circumstances in which I can recall that there are lawyers who will say that, for whatever reason — and I will give you a classic example of a reason — where it becomes apparent that one or both of the parties have been engaged in essentially tax fraud that would be very adverse to their clients’ interest if it were to come  before a judge who would be required to make a referral to the state’s attorney or to the IRS for example. There are circumstances in which the attorneys will say, “Let’s try and get this out of the judicial system. Let’s hire a Special Master — not necessarily a retired judge, sometimes it’s very experienced family attorneys — and see if we can, you know, make it happen that way.”

Since the filmed meetings are available for public viewing online, there’s now public knowledge of a credible witness who knows about Connecticut’s attorneys and retired judges hiding tax fraud in child custody cases.

Judgments in those cases will need to be set aside, federal authorities will need to investigate, and Ms. Verraneault will have been proven right about how long all of this is going to take.

An  AP article in the Wall Street Journal last May might explain why Ms. Wicks Dornfeld speaks so comfortably about her colleagues hiding tax fraud.

According to the author of the article, Connecticut lawyers:

are shielded from fraud lawsuits under absolute immunity, a doctrine dating back to medieval England. The doctrine was intended to promote people speaking freely at judicial proceedings without fear of being sued and to avoid hindering an attorney’s advocacy for his or her client.” 

The task force is obliged to take its time – and as many task forces and committees it takes – to protect Connecticut’s children and families from what looks like a lawless system. Considering the disclosure noted above, Connecticut legislators should form another task force or allow the current task force to form an ad hoc committee. The new task force or ad hoc committee can be called something like, “Committee to Study Types of Fraud Currently Allowed in Legal Disputes Involving the Care and Custody of Minor Children in Connecticut”.

Thousands of victims of various kinds of fraud in Connecticut’s family court system would appreciate the opportunity to participate in such a study.   

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