It may make no sense that a narcissist needs to suck all the goodness out of you.
What is the point in destroying someone until they barely exist?
Why do narcissists pursue connections with people so fanatically, only to empty them out and throw them aside?
It’s completely illogical until you understand EXACTLY why!
Many people wonder why narcissists act the way they do.
You may be distraught regarding the way the narcissist behaves, having zero consideration for your well-being.
Why do narcissists do this? Why does a narcissist have to suck you dry of your love, good nature, health, resources and even your very soul?
What is the point of being in a relationship with somebody, only to empty them out, and then throw their corpse into the gutter?
In today’s Thriver TV episode, I explain to you exactly why narcissists do this.
But before we get started, I’d like to thank you for subscribing to my channel and for supporting the Thriver mission. Also, if you haven’t yet subscribed, I’d love to remind you to please do and share this video so that you can help people globally know that it is now possible to heal for real from abuse.
Okay so let’s get started with today’s episode.
The Vampire Myth
The vampire myth bears such a strong resemblance to narcissism. Many believe that the myth was modelled on narcissism.
Vampires are the walking dead. They were purported to be lifeless souls sucking the blood (Life Force) out of humans in order to survive.
Narcissists are eerily similar. They feel dead on the inside, and it’s not until they get the feedback of somebody else’s energy (narcissistic supply) that they can feel alive.
Just like vampires without blood, narcissists without attention can’t exist. They don’t function.
Vampires had to hunt humans in order to exist.
Similarly, narcissists hunt other people’s energy in order to exist. They are as much hardened addicts, as any drug addict is, and also as much as vampires purportedly were.
Narcissists don’t just stop at attention; anything that feeds the insatiable ego (a bottomless deep black hole that can’t be filled) is fair game. This means commodities like sex, money, resources, and anything that is for the taking, including people’s time, health, years and emotions.
When you stay connected to a narcissist whilst trying to get them to change and behave like a normal, sensible, non-vampirish person, you are available as a source to be sucked dry.
Staying with a narcissist doesn’t earn you love, approval, security or survival. Rather, it smashes all of these things to pieces, emptying us out to our very demise.
A Narcissist Can’t Retain Their Own Energy
There is another phenomenon that explains why narcissists suck people dry.
I want you to think of a black hole. This is anti-gravity. Things disappear into this black hole never to be seen again.
The vacuum source of a black hole is so intense that it will gobble up complete celestial bodies into itself.
The black hole is empty, it’s nothing, yet it has an insatiable appetite that can never be appeased.
No matter how much it consumes, it stays black, it stays as “nothing”.
Narcissists are the same. Because their ego cannot be appeased, any external hit of significance only offers temporary self-solidness and peace, which doesn’t hold.
The narcissist is always chasing attention, stuff and other people’s resources and energy to try to fill their inner black hole that can never be satisfied. Sooner, rather than later, the narcissist is back to craving more to try to offset the horrific feeling of living with an internal black hole that is an emotionally annihilating self-prophecy.
Now let’s take this understanding even further.
The Narcissist Is A False Self
The narcissist does not have an active True Self core. The narcissist as an incredibly damaged and insecure individual has decided that his or her True Self is inadequate, and has assigned a fictitious character (a False Self) to be at the helm.
The False Self is a fragile construct. The ego is not solid, confident, or organically experiencing feelings of peace and wholeness. The False Self is not connected to one’s Superconscious/Creation/Source/God (a Higher Power).
Therefore, the False Self is out on the edge of survival all on its own. The narcissist has never faced the inner traumas that have caused such a grave disconnection from his or her True Self and All of Life.
As an empty entity continually in the trauma of separation from Creation Itself, the narcissist is alone, hungry and desolate. He or she needs copious amounts of stuff, acclaim and significance in order to try to feel remotely okay.
It’s a full-time fruitless job to feed a bottomless False Self.
In stark contrast, those of us who did turn inwards to self-partner with our True Self (no matter how damaged) and did the diligent inner work to heal our Inner Beings from trauma and false programming up to wholeness, have discovered the relief of being connected to ourselves and Life healthily.
Narcissists, sadly, don’t ever get to experience this Oneness.
When you move into the light of your healing, you come out of the danger space of narcissists. Think when a bright light is shone on a vampire, they recoil back into the shadows.
Without your pain and fear, a narcissist cannot exist under your bright light.
If you get this, I want you to pause this video and declare below, “I am claiming my light, that dissolves away your darkness NOW”.
Our Lesson In All of This
I wrote an article a while ago about how codependents and narcissists are two sides of the same coin.
We may believe that opposites attract. On the surface this looks very true, that narcissists who are takers like to get with people who are givers.
For sure this is real. However, there is a deeper truth to this regarding the bonding together of co-dependent people and narcissists.
If we are suffering disconnection from our Inner Beings and carrying trauma and trying to get our outer lives to take the inner trauma away, rather than being self-partnered and doing our inner work, then we are susceptible to narcissists.
Which means WE need to heal.
This is where I come in. I can help you get free from inner emptiness and pain, just as I did, and no longer be susceptible to narcissists latching on to you and sucking you dry.
So, I hope that this episode has really helped, and please remember to subscribe so that you will be notified as soon as each new Thriver TV episode is released. I publish two each week. And if you liked this, click on the like and share buttons!
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