There are so many losses after narcissistic abuse. It can be daunting to lose yourself, your health, family and friends as well as resources and finances.
Today, I share how to rebuild your self, health, important relationships and financial prosperity after narcissistic abuse.
Regardless of how old you are, how damaged you feel, how much you have lost and even if you believe that recovery and rebuild is impossible.
I promise you it is possible when you know how.
Losses are extreme with narcissistic abuse.
Loss of health, life force, resources, prosperity, and the energy, inspiration and hope to go forward and generate a new future.
I know how devastating this is, and I promise you I’ve been there on all these levels.
However, I want you to know there is a way to rebuild your life after narcissistic abuse. Myself, and so many others in this Thriver Community have achieved this spectacularly, against all odds and even despite so-called unhealable medical diagnoses.
By watching this video hopefully, I can inspire you to know that there is a wonderful life available for you after narcissistic abuse, no matter how much you have lost.
Today, we are going to look deeply at the different losses and how you can rebuild from them.
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Okay so on to this episode!
Loss Of Self
After narcissistic abuse it is usual to feel like you’ve lost your life-force and your well-being.
You may even believe your life is over, and can’t imagine what it would feel like to be normal or healthy again.
Of course, initially we want things to change in our circumstances, such as the narcissist to be held accountable, or for some good fortune to turn everything around, or even for a wonderful person to come into our life to pick us up and save us from all of this trauma and devastation.
Maybe you just want to wake up from the nightmare that has become your life.
But the truth is no one is coming, and your Inner Being, which is the foundational basis of your entire life, is waiting for you to turn inwards and be your own rescuer.
And of course, initially you feel like you don’t have the health, sanity or inner resources to save yourself.
Yet, the total irony is we can’t recover and rebuild ourselves until we do turn inwards with the intention to be our own saviour.
In fact, it’s crucial.
And the reason it is, is because it puts you back inside your body.
You may think that the anxiety, depression and trauma is a result of what has happened to you. Yes it is, however, it is continuing and not being resolved, if you don’t turn inwards to meet these conditions and heal yourself back to wholeness.
That is exactly what self-partnering is about, and it is the very first essential step of Thriver Recovery. In fact, it’s what the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) is all about – learning how to turn inwards to find, load up, and release all of the trauma that is generating your trauma and abuse symptoms, and replacing this with your Highest Source, which creates the shift to heal you.
This process can’t happen without self-partnering.
As a result of self-partnering, you will organically start shifting into the knowing that you are lovable and worthy, and as an adult capable of generating your own security and survival.
This is when the prior abuse trauma from the narcissist and the narcissist’s attempts to derail and terrorise you will all melt away.
I promise you that these capacities don’t come from outside of you, they need to be healed up from inside of you.
By doing so you will evolve beyond the fractures, trauma, and anxiety of having handed your power away to abusive people who did not have your best interests at heart.
Loss Of People
Inevitably, as a result of narcissistic abuse, relationships in your life may get smashed to pieces.
It is horrifying how narcissists have the ability to smear you, discredit you and turn people in your life against you. You may have lost family members, friends, associates and maybe even been alienated from your own children.
I know that this is beyond cruel, and my heart goes out to you if you have experienced these dreadful things.
And I really want to inspire you to know that staying stuck in the terrible trauma and victimisation will only mean that these circumstances can’t shift in your life.
It is completely understandable why you would be stuck in these feelings, and I totally validate you in that place, but there is a much more effective solution and way to deal with this.
With myself, and so many other people that I have helped achieve true healing with NARP, we discovered that when we released the trauma of these terrible injustices, smearing and alienation that we suffered, our Inner Being shifted, and then the outer started to shift to match this.
This is how powerful we are – we are Quantum Creators from the inside out.
People come back. The narcissist gets caught out. Loved ones return.
All sorts of miracles happen. I promise you this with all my heart.
There are numerous people in this community who have been reunited with people and their children who they were alienating from (some for decades), as a result of letting go of all the pain, resentment and heartbreak with NARP modules.
The complete and utter irony is, when you are at peace and only feel love in your heart without pain regardless of the outer circumstances, that’s when the outer circumstances powerfully shift.
This is the secret to changing our life, including our most important relationships. When we use Quantum Tools to achieve this, it becomes powerfully possible.
So many of us have been devastated by terrible health conditions as a result of narcissistic abuse. Trauma creates this. Eventually, not just your emotions break down, but also your physical being.
I know so many people, myself included, who were given shocking diagnoses as a result of the breakdowns of narcissistic abuse. So many of us were told that our emotional, adrenal, or mental breakdowns as well as PTSD, fibromyalgia, adrenal malfunctions and nervous system disorders, such as agoraphobia, could never be truly healed and at best, we could only hope to manage them with medication and strategies.
This is not true recovery; this is simply trying to exist with the trauma generated symptoms of abuse still active within you.
Now myself, and so many others, know that there is a true recovery solution for our abuse symptoms. Namely, releasing the trauma from within your Inner Being that is generating these symptoms.
When you do this, you allow well being to enter the space where the dis-ease once was, and you have the ultimate potential to get well.
Maybe, even more well than you have been in your entire life, even before abuse.
This is the resurrection that is totally possible for you … truly.
Myself and so many others have achieved this, fully. We no longer suffer any narcissistic abuse trauma symptoms.
A big part of narcissistic abuse is financial abuse. It is a widespread devastation in this Community.
So many people ask, “How DO I get over the financial abuse?”, “How can I leave when I am financially dependent on the narcissist?” and “How will I ever rebuild my life again?”
Financial abuse can be a dreadful injury in our life, and I promise you it was initially a massive challenge for me. Originally, I just wanted to somehow get up off the ground and rebuild what I lost. But the more I tried to do that, without facing my inner healing, the more powerless I felt.
I just didn’t have what it took to get up and get going again, and I wasn’t meant to. Because the time had come where I needed to deeply investigate and heal the reasons why I had suffered such financial devastation at the hands of abusers.
Something incredible happened when I started to clean that up. I felt relief, I felt wholeness inside that was no longer reliant on me having to have a certain thing or be a certain way.
It was just an organic peace. And from that place, with newly formed and anchored-in belief systems regarding my ability to be a generator of prosperity, with all of the healthy components of life, I started to blossom.
I was able to start actualising a rebuild from complete and total financial devastation. Solutions and assistance came. Support came. Opportunities and synchronicity and even miracles started entering my life granting me the abundance that I was already feeling in regard to loving and accepting myself unconditionally, regardless of what I did or didn’t have in my life.
I have seen so many Thrivers in this community rebuild their lives financially after narcissistic abuse, as a result of releasing and healing their internal financial traumas with NARP.
Many of these people were in midlife and beyond. Some of them had not worked for decades, and were even left with zero finances or shocking debt as a result of the abuse.
Yet, they were able to come back in ways and timeframes that were astounding, once the trauma was released and Life Force, in abundance, was able to flow through them as them.
And I know, as a result of deeply working on your Inner Being with my Quantum Tools in NARP, that you will have exactly the same opportunity to turn it all around.
How Our Losses Are Deeply Interconnected
I completely and utterly believe that a relationship with self, health, others, and finances is all deeply interconnected.
To holistically become healthy, whole, self-generative and flourished and nourished by Life Force itself, as well as being able to abundantly expand and express our mission and purpose on this planet, all of these areas of our life require our inner attention.
These are the four areas that we commonly experience grave loss in as a result of narcissistic abuse, and the good news is that we can directly address them to heal them beyond description.
You see, there is an incredible radical compensation that occurs after narcissistic abuse, when we turn inwards, to claim and activate the healing of Self. What wasn’t right, resets to becoming healthier than we could ever imagine in our wildest dreams.
That is the Thriver Way!
And I can’t wait for this to be your Thriver reality as well.
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