Narcissists like to turn everything against you, such as people, situations, resources, property and even your children. By why do they do this and why do you end up feeling powerless when this happens?
I know you want them to see the light and understand why their actions, words and behaviour is hurting you and you want them to ‘get it’.
How can you get a narcissist to see the light?
I am going to explain EXACTLY how you can in today’s Thriver TV episode!
My heart goes out to you if you are experiencing a narcissist turning everything against you. I know it’s horrible, and I know that you can feel powerless when this happens.
I also know that you want the narcissist to get it, that their behaviour is atrocious, that what they are doing to you is not okay.
It is usual to want to make a narcissist see the light!
That’s exactly what we are going to talk about today, how you can make a narcissist see the light.
The light that is going to make your life awesome, free from the pain and able to generate what you want – true love, safety and honesty.
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Okay, so let’s get started on today’s important episode.
Our Normal Tendency When Being Set Upon
When somebody is treating us with such cruelty and the projections of making everything out to be our fault, we get angry. We try to get them to treat us decently.
But, with narcissistic people, this 100% does not work.
If anything, it grants the narcissist more bullets to shoot us with. He or she will use our traumatised feelings against us and shift the blame even more heavily.
It feels devastating.
When we are traumatised, we just can’t seem to stop ourselves from trying to go in harder to get this person to “see the light” and stop doing what they’re doing. Despite it making matters even worse.
Why doesn’t it give us the results we want?
The real reason why it doesn’t work is because we are not using “our light” at this time.
We are being triggered heavily into our wounds. Wounds from our life preceding this current experience. The wounds of not feeling lovable, heard, respected and treated with care.
To a narcissist, this is A-grade narcissistic supply. Our intense emotional attention towards them makes him or her feel so significant. It additionally allows the narcissist to shift the blame and accuse us of being all sorts of things – such as unloving, untrustworthy, selfish and nasty.
Then we go all-in even harder, trying to justify how good a person we are. Often, we then hand over even more of our resources, good nature and energy trying to prove to the narcissist that we are a decent and trustworthy individual.
This empties us out even more.
I promise you this, as hard as it is to accept, the following understanding will change everything for you and start to liberate you …
It is not possible to take back your power, when you are triggered and stuck and traumatised in your wounds.
Let’s talk about the way to rise up and out of this.
Detachment in Order to Heal
A huge shift is necessary to get out of this terrible and traumatising pattern, of hooking into the narcissist trying to force him or her to see the light and only getting pulverised and ripped apart even more every time you try to do it.
There is only one way to get onto the path of feeling safe and whole again, and that is to stop touching the stove that is burning you.
Stop taking the poison that is making you so sick.
This requires letting go, detaching and pulling away regardless of what this person threatens, or does. Then you can turn inwards to self-partner and heal the parts of you that are being significantly targeted and triggered by the narcissist.
At first, of course, this is the last thing that we want to do.
We are addicted to trying to go back in harder, trying to force this person to stop doing what they’re doing. But this is a Wrong Town focus that just leads to more compounding traumatisation.
You have to let go and pull away. There is no other way.
The True Lesson in This
I really want you to understand that someone who has the capacity to treat you so cruelly is not someone who you can ever change to have a healthy relationship with. They simply do not have the capacity.
This person was never in your life to have a healthy relationship with. Rather, they ignited enough pain within so that you would pull away, detach and heal yourself up to your inner wholeness to never accept a lesser relationship than the love and wholeness that you have achieved within yourself.
After healing yourself back to wholeness, I promise you that you will have no feelings of loss, wanting to reconnect, needing closure from, or even wanting the narcissist to change and see the light.
Rather, you will have become the light to yourself that your Inner Being always wanted you to be.
There is so much for you to look forward to, I promise.
And I know you need to hear that, to give you the hope of being able to move out of the pain that you are feeling right now.
What Happens When the Narcissist Sees Your Light
People often say that narcissists will never stop harassing and abusing them.
I used to believe this myself and thought that he would never let up until I was completely destroyed.
Now I know how this is not true.
So many of us are now living completely narcissistic free lives, even those who are parallel parenting with narcissists.
What is the defining difference? How do you get not only free of the trauma symptoms of narcissistic abuse but completely free from the narcissist’s antics, punishments and malicious behaviour, regardless of what he or she has kept trying to do?
The answer is simple … I promise you.
When you achieve this, there is no more pain, blame, shame or regret or any negative feelings in regard to the narcissist at all. The obsessional thoughts completely stop and all the memories fade away as if it was somebody else this happened to.
That is what Thriving truly means!
When you become this light, the narcissist can no longer be in your experience, any more than an ice cube could be on a warm beach.
Remember the truth about the myth of vampires. They cannot bear the light. What this metaphor really means is, when they aren’t in the shadows working with people’s fear and pain, and are exposed under a big great spotlight of truth, they shriek and shrivel up.
I promise you that your greatest defence is always about healing yourself up to be who you really are. Without your internal trauma, you already are a whole individual who knows how to make your life work.
And this is exactly what you will start to experience.
I hope that this episode has really helped you realise the truth about how to make a narcissist see the light.
The light of your True Self which means that you are no longer a target for a False Self ever again.
If you are starting to feel and understand this, I want you to repeat after me a statement that we say in every Quanta Freedom Healing Module in all of my healing programs … This …
“I am the light. The light I am. It just is.”
Now pause this video and let me know how this feels in your body, by writing your answer below.
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