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12 Tips for Staying Centered And Calm During The COVID-19 Crisis

12 Tips for Staying Centered And Calm During The COVID-19 Crisis

If you follow these 12 tips, you will feel more calm, focused, and aligned. With kindness, flexibility, and mindfulness, we can get through this!

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How To Stay Centered And Calm During The Covid19 Crisis

calm during covid19 crisis

 

The recent outbreak of COVID-19, commonly known as “the coronavirus,” is changing things rapidly. Many people are adjusting to working from home unexpectedly. The virus is hitting some harder than others, with some people losing their income.

As you’re adjusting to this, it may feel like it’s turning your world upside down. You may be struggling to figure out new technology, adjusting to having kids running around, and overwhelmed by the news on social media.

While this feels confusing, scary, and overwhelming, it doesn’t need to be. I am a psychotherapist and coach who specializes in helping college students and young professionals overcome stress and anxiety so they can live better lives.

Helping people through stressful times is what I love doing most. With the proper mindset, you can stay calm and focused during this time.

12 Tips for Staying Centered And Calm During The Covid19 Crisis

1. Stay informed by consulting quality resources

Aim to get your information from quality sources like the CDC. Take the recommendations seriously, and then rest assured that you’re doing your part.

2. Practice mindfulness and breathe

When you notice your thoughts spiraling into worry about the future, even when you’ve done what you can, recognize that this won’t help the present. Notice your worry and bring your awareness back to the present moment. Take deep breaths into your belly. This helps calm your nervous system down.

3. Focus on what’s within your control

The events of the world are not within your personal control. You can, however, control how you manage your time, how you respond to stress, and how adaptive you are to changing times. This gives you a sense of hope and resiliency. Keep asking yourself: “what CAN I do?” After you’ve done what you can, let the rest go.

4. Limit news-checking

Keeping up with the news is helpful and necessary, to a point. But set some boundaries for yourself if you find you’re checking too much COVID-19 (Coronavirus) news and it’s stressing you out (for example, catching up 2 times a day instead of 10).

5. Become friends with change

Big changes such as working from home, homeschooling, or canceling social plans can feel overwhelming. Reduce overwhelm by taking things one step at a time. Reframe the change as an exciting and new challenge to overcome, and not an overwhelming one.

6. Rearrange your schedule

If you’re shifting to working from home, it might be tempting to sleep in, work late, or spend the middle of the day playing with your dog. But as someone who has worked from home, I know the importance of organization and self-discipline. Plan out your day in advance. Waking up at the same time and working set hours can keep you on track. Use apps like Google Calendar, Trello, and Asana to schedule your time and keep track of your to-dos.

7. Rethink your exercise routine

If you’re used to attending classes at the yoga studio or gym, you may feel like you “can’t exercise” if your favorite workout spot is closed. However, there are many options available from home or outside. Check to see if your favorite yoga instructors are offering online classes, pump up your bike tires, go on a walk, or learn how to use free weights at home. With creativity, you can stay fit and healthy (which is especially important while the virus is circulating).

8. Use any extra time to refocus and realign

Quarter 1 is almost over! Use any extra time you have to assess how the first quarter went. Make sure you’re on track with your resolutions, recommit to your goals, create new strategies, and optimize your workflow. The key here is to focus on what you CAN do, and not on what you can’t.

9. Journal about your emotions

It’s okay to be upset, afraid, or emotional about COVID-19 (Coronavirus) outbreak. Research has shown immensely positive benefits to journaling about your emotions. Sit down for 20-30 minutes and let it out on the page.

10. Try new activities

Now is the perfect time to pin new recipes to your pinboard, try out some DIY projects, read new books, or take online classes. You can also do some spring cleaning or post old clothing items online. If you see the change is exciting, you may actually be grateful for this time!

11. Be supportive and kind

Times like these can make us more selfish and scared, or they can make us feel more generous and kind. Many people are suffering economically. If you are one of the people who has been less financially impacted, consider supporting small businesses or economically disadvantaged families who have been hit hardest. Even if you can’t contribute financially, a kind word goes a long way.

12. Don’t be afraid to ask for help

If you’re still overwhelmed, seek the help of a coach who can help you manage your schedule and build resilience, or a qualified therapist who can help you manage intense feelings of anxiety, panic, and fear.

If you follow these 12 tips, you will feel more calm, focused, and aligned. With kindness, flexibility, and mindfulness, we can get through this!

 

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How to Find Calm in the Middle of Divorce Chaos

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Now that I’m in my 40’s what I know for sure is life is messy. Most of us are acting like we have it all figured out, but in reality, we are all just winging it.

You can’t ever really plan for the storms ahead, and whether you like it or not, they are coming.

Like anyone else, I’ve endured my share of storms: the death of loved ones, loss of friendships, family feuds. But divorce was the kind of storm that was off the charts, and the damage left behind lingered for years.

Finding Calm in the Middle of Divorce Chaos

There was a time in my life when my young arrogant self believed that once I was married I would never get divorced. I would have bet my life on it; that’s how sure I was—” Not this girl, she’s in it for the long haul.”

I ate every single one of those words, and it turned my world “outside in.”

For our 10th anniversary, my husband bought me a 2-carat diamond ring. We could have bought a car for the price he paid for it. And I remember the sales guy saying, “It’s been ten years now, you can buy her the ring,” meaning she isn’t going anywhere after all this time, it’s a safe investment.

Like I said, life is messy.

Divorce isn’t something you can prepare yourself for, at least not the emotional roller coaster that takes place after such a life-altering decision. Like all creation, divorce happens in the mind first. You don’t just wake up one day and say to your partner, “Hey, I think we should get a divorce.” Looking back on it now, I would say that I started feeling disconnected from my marriage a few years before I uttered those gut-wrenching words to my husband.

When I finally dared to say those words out loud, the storm inside me had already taken over. We had been together for 19 years and had two amazing children. That was half my life I built with this man. It was not a decision taken lightly. But the storm wasn’t letting up. It was trying to do what it needed to do to get my attention.

During this time, my body was paying the price for not living my truth. I went from being very healthy to getting high blood pressure, depression, anxiety, cystic acne on my neck from stress, and experiencing a full-blown identity crisis.

If this wasn’t bad enough, externally, I was unsupported by family members, was criticized and judged, lost many friendships, and was continually working to defend myself and prove myself worthy.

I never felt more alone.

From the outside looking in, I get what people saw. They saw a woman who was empty with eyes left lifeless. They saw through the fake smile and the tired soul. They saw what once was light now turned to darkness. They felt the heaviness of my marriage.

I had to do something because mentally and physically I couldn’t continue on that path. My kids deserved more. I deserved more. Living in the storm broke me, feeling as if every which way I turned, I could never catch my breath.

These were the conditions that left me no other option than to retreat from the outside world and journey towards the only place that felt safe— within.

There’s something about being in the eye of the storm. They say the eye of the storm is so calm because the unbearable surface winds never reach the center. Little did I know what was about to happen.

I think nature has a funny way of mimicking great truths. I had no idea that the eye of the storm brought a calmness I never knew existed. The moment I retreated inside myself was the moment my voice met my spirit, and their conversation was stillness. This stillness was the place I found my truth. It was a buried treasure I had been searching for my entire life.

I had no idea that what I had been longing for was this place deep inside of me. All I had to do was listen in silence. Wherever I went, no matter what anyone said or did, nobody could ever take this away from me.

I had been so conditioned to the storm, immune to its effects, that I didn’t realize I was giving away precious energy that I should have been conserving for my wellbeing. I didn’t have to get sucked in and react to everything that I allowed to trigger me. I could choose to retreat anytime I wanted.

Weathering the storm meant that eventually, everything would settle down if I gave it enough time, and what once seemed catastrophic would subsequently be a distant memory. John Maxwell said it best, “Learning to pause allows growth to catch up with you.”

Find your quiet place, take a pause, and watch what happens when you stop getting kicked around by the storm.

In case you missed it, I created a free guided meditation specifically for divorced moms that will help realign you back to your center.  As a divorced mom myself, this is what helped me become a conscious mom, and I know you will benefit from it too!

Get the free meditation guide here: mailchi.mp/9859fc96d7c6/a-mothers-meditation

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