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Technology: How It Makes Co-Parenting Easier

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Deciding to go through a divorce is not an easy decision and it is especially difficult when children are involved. While the process can be long and grueling, it can get even harder once the divorce is final.

Having to learn how to co-parent is a new and challenging experience. One way that co-parenting can be made easier is through the use of technology. When sitting down with your divorce lawyer, make sure to dive into all the different ways you can co-parent and see if they can offer some suggestions of what works and what does not.

How to Make Co-Parenting Easier

Common Co-parenting Issues:

While raising your child as a team sounds great, it can get messy when you can’t agree on certain things with your ex. Finding ways to make these issues more subtle or even resolve them can take time. Some of the most common issues that may come along with co-parenting include:

How technology can help:

With all the recent advancements in technology being able to communicate with each other anytime is easier than ever. Without being in the same state or even country you can still communicate and video chat with your kids at any time.

This can help when co-parenting issues may arise, like one parent needing help from the other. In addition to being able to communicate at almost anytime, it can also help parents who work full time.

If you have to watch your children at home, the option of being able to work from home is as easy as ever. You can still put in a productive workday while still being able to be around and watch your children. Technology has also made it easier to minimize miscommunication among divorced parents with children.

Making sure who has the kids and who is picking them up or dropping them off is very simple with technology. Being able to simply text or call to make sure that communication is clear or even sharing a schedule online can limit any potential issues.

Keep in mind:

While technology can bring in a plethora of benefits, it is important to keep in mind the possibility of some misunderstandings. Being able to avoid certain pitfalls when it comes to the use of technology during the co-parenting process. When texting with your ex-spouse understand that a written record of the conversation is being established.

If you do not have the best relationship with your spouse, keeping your texts professional and tone free can ensure a quick and smooth interaction.

Try to keeping texting to a minimum, and have it be used strictly for emergencies, quick notifications or updates, and any logistics that may need to be discussed. Setting up rules like this can help make technology extremely helpful not only for communication but for avoiding conflict as well.

How can your lawyer help?

A divorce lawyer can help you with potential co-parenting issues. With the help of an expert divorce lawyer, you can help you solve issues that you are having with your ex-spouse, whether it is child custody or visitation rights, our team will work to make sure that you get the best possible outcome for you.

Technology has made our lives much easier, one of these ways is through communication. This can help divorced parents and deal with co-parenting. Know that even though it may seem difficult right now, a divorce lawyer can assist you when it comes to solving any co-parenting issues that you may be having.

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5 Tips For Taking Back To School Hassles Out Of Co-Parenting

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With school events, sports, and fall activities starting up soon, handling the communication about your children is a hassle when both parents live under the same roof. If you’re a divorced parent, it’s even more difficult.

However, keeping the lines of communication with your ex effective and positive while supporting your child is important, so parents need to make the extra effort to stay organized. How do you handle the communication when the stress of all the fall activities start back up?

How To Take Back To School Hassles Out of Co-Parenting

1: Keep the school and teachers informed

Let teachers and school personnel know how to contact all the parents of your child. Explain how all the parents are involved and want to support their child’s education. Request that you will need two copies of letters, brochures, etc. Send the teacher an email with all pertinent emails and contact information so she can easily contact everyone.

2: Have ONE folder for both homes

In our family, each child has a folder that comes home with their school papers and each night the parent they are staying with reads the papers, completes the assignment, initials it, and leaves it in the folder for the other parent to see. When both parents have seen it, it is trashed or sent back to school, if needed. We inform the teacher of our system so she’s aware to leave the papers in the folder an extra day or so. If it is an urgent matter, we will take a picture using our phone and text it to the other parent to see.

3: Use the same visual reminders in both households

If you have a chore chart, it is easiest if you have the same one in both households so that the children know that the expectations are the same. Another trick that I use to help remind us of the school specials schedule is I make magnets for both homes with the specials listed for each day so that there is no confusion when they need to wear their sneakers or bring their library books to school. Use Pinterest to find little tricks to make organization quick and easy.

4: Use Technology

Find apps that make communication between divorced moms and dads easy. One app we use is FamilyWall. It allows us to share a calendar, pictures, and reminders for upcoming events.  We also all share a Google calendar as well. Our family uses FaceTime and MarcoPolo to chat with each other when the kids are at the other parent’s home. Most schools have an online grading system and online newsletters that all parents that register can review. Another app to track schedules is 2houses.

5 Track and Share Expenses

Back to school supplies can be very expensive so keep receipts or split the cost between the parents. I buy my oldest daughter’s supplies while my ex-husband purchases our son’s items. We also split birthday party gifts when our children attend birthday parties. One month I buy the gift and the next month, he buys one. We agree to a set limit and purchase a gift at that amount. Some people prefer to track expenses and split the costs monthly. The app, 2houses, offers a way to track and manage expenses, in addition to tracking your schedules.

When both divorced parents have open and positive communication focused on the success of our children, it demonstrates that we support our children’s well-being. This is especially important during transitions. With kids going back to school shortly, it’s time to get organized- especially if you’re divorced or separated. If you’re struggling, find the support you need from a life coach or therapist to learn to positively communicate with your ex to make this transition as smoothly as possible.

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My Story of Divorce: Aftermath of Divorce and Co-Parenting (Part 3)

My Story of Divorce: Aftermath of Divorce and Co-Parenting (Part 3)

When the aftermath of destruction is better than the ideal. Sometimes, people parent better apart, than they do when together. This is my story.

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Co-Parenting and Depression: 4 Ways to Cope

Co-Parenting and Depression: 4 Ways to Cope

Depression impacts so many physical functions, from your own well-being and ability to have a new, meaningful relationship to your child’s happiness and social life.

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Thoughts to Keep in Mind when Co-Parenting With an Ex

Thoughts to Keep in Mind when Co-Parenting With an Ex

Keeping these things in mind may help co-parenting with your ex much smoother.

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An Example of the Power of Positive Co-Parenting

An Example of the Power of Positive Co-Parenting

The results of our positive co-parenting revealed themselves in how our daughter feels she can now talk about her parents in the same sentence; this never occurred in the past.

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3 Ways to Diffuse High-Conflict Co-Parenting

3 Ways to Diffuse High-Conflict Co-Parenting

High-conflict co-parenting takes a toll on the children and co-parents involved, but reaching a fair parenting plan can help improve these relationships.

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5 Types Of Post-Divorce Co-Parenting Relationships

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If you have researched any recent divorce statistics in the US, you know that divorce is a common scenario that occurs in 4 out of 10 marriages. Divorcing when you have children adds a considerable amount of nuances and complications to the process, such as working out the child custody arrangements.

While a complicated and often painful situation, steps you take as you navigate your post-divorce lifestyle and co-parenting can greatly reduce stress for everyone involved.

Identifying YOUR Post-Divorce Co-Parenting Relationship

No two marriages or divorces are the same, so your post-divorce relationship with your former spouse could take on many different forms.

1. Friendly Co-parents

In this beneficial post-divorce relationship, the exes have amicable feelings toward one another, often for the sake of preserving some elements of the cohesive family lifestyle for the children. These former couples are comfortable attending school events together, occasionally enjoying a meal with the kids, and even taking trips together.

If both exes have truly moved on past the pain and awkwardness of divorce, they can either feign friendliness for the sake of the kids or even enjoy a truly platonic relationship. This is a healthy and balanced set up for the kids, but also rare and hard to sustain through the daily stresses and changes of modern life.

2. Fully Estranged

These are ex-couples that are no longer in touch. This can happen for many reasons – a move for one of the exes, mental or physical issues, or a deep resentment or anger on one or both sides. This type of relationship can offer a clean break and closure to the ex-spouses, but when there are children involved, can be extremely painful. Parents often forget what kind of negative effect this type of post-divorce relationship might have on children.

3. Highly Contentious

This type of post-divorce relationship has a very high level of anger and conflict, so much so, that the parties often have to communicate through lawyers or a mediator. The anger of one or both of the exes gets in the way of making decisions about the children or ironing out the details of the divorce. This type of relationship is harmful to all and very stressful for the children.

The good news is that it often calms down after the divorce is finalized, or when a good amount of time passes. If you both make a good faith effort to try to get passed divorce, this toxic post-divorce relationship can be avoided.

4. Partially Contentious

Not as toxic and tense as the Highly Contentious relationship, the exes that have a Partially Contentious relationship post-divorce tend to have a strong dislike for one another, and trouble agreeing on anything. They generally do communicate directly but argue frequently. This type of relationship is also very hard on the kids, and the exes.

5. Efficient Co-parents

This is a largely neutral post-divorce relationship between the former spouses, but one that is cooperative and positive about matters having to do with the kids. For the sake of having peace and harmony for everyone involved, the exes try to be flexible about things like kids’ schedule changes, making important decisions about schools and camps and working together to plan for key milestones, like college. Many exes even take co-parenting courses to try to act as effectively as possible.

Assess How You Would Like Your Post-Divorce Life to Be

After you endure the whirlwind emotions of navigating the divorce process, it is important to take a step back and assess where you would like to be after some time passes. In many situations, even the toughest situations can settle down after both parties have had some time and closure. You might not be able to carve out your ideal situation, but taking steps in a positive direction can help achieve some measure of peace in the future.

Separate your Divorce Baggage from your Kids’ Experience

In many situations, an ex spouse can be an amazing parent while being a terrible spouse, or ex. Take the time to recognize these differences. Maybe your ex is rude and dismissive to you, but patient and kind as a parent. Do not let your hurt feelings ignore the positive effect your ex has on the kids. Do your best to support your ex as a parent, especially when your child has specific development needs.

Improve Your Communication

Most issues between divorced spouses stem from bad communication, and emotions can often get in the way. Think about what is effective communication for you and your ex – perhaps emailing or texting is better or planning ahead. Once you find what results in better understanding, implement those communication methods for better results.

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10 Co-Parenting Tips to Help Your Kids Thrive During the Holidays

10 Co-Parenting Tips to Help Your Kids Thrive During the Holidays

Show compassion for your kids if they seem stressed or worried about presents, holiday schedules, or other issues.  Assure them that you will help them to navigate through rocky patches and that it’s normal to feel stressed during the holidays.

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The Do’s and Don’ts of Co-Parenting

The Do’s and Don’ts of Co-Parenting

There is no doubt that co-parenting is sometimes hard, but it is healthier for your children to spend time with both parents and receive the benefit of both parent’s input on major life decisions.

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