The Court that Hurts Children

The Court that Hurts Children

By Barry Goldstein

Custody courts cannot protect children when they permit a biased theory, designed to help abusive fathers take custody from good mothers and twice rejected by the American Psychiatric Association because there is no research to support it, to have more influence over the courts than ACE (adverse childhood experiences) and Saunders that are peer-reviewed scientific studies that go to the essence of the well-being of children and come from highly credible sources.

The ACE Studies are peer-reviewed medical research sponsored by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. The original ACE Study was released in 1998 and there have been at least five additional ACE Studies that confirm and expand the original findings. ACE is used by doctors to diagnose and treat patients, therapists for trauma-informed treatment of patients, public health officials use ACE to help traumatized survivors, and educators use ACE to help traumatized students. The only purpose of unscientific alienation theories is to help abusive fathers take custody from safe, protective mothers and help the cottage industry earn large incomes.

ACE would tell the court that children exposed to domestic violence, child abuse and other trauma will live shorter lives and face a lifetime of health and social problems. Most of the harm is not from any immediate physical injury, but from living with the fear and stress abusers cause. Doctors working with the ACE research can help courts understand that contested custody in DV cases is often the last chance to save children from a lifetime (often a shorter lifetime) of illness and pain. In order to save these children, they will need medical treatment and therapy to respond to health problems as they develop and reduce the stress which will cause most of the harm. The children also cannot be exposed to more abuse or frightening situations or else they cannot heal. When courts insist on giving an abuser shared decision-making, they prevent the children from receiving the treatment they need. Abusers particularly do not want the children in therapy where they might reveal his abuse. When courts assume keeping abusers in children’s lives is beneficial, they expose children to more abuse and stress. These standard court responses remove the last chance for children to have a full and successful life.

The Saunders Study was sponsored by the National Institute of Justice in the US Justice Department. The purpose was to determine the domestic violence knowledge of judges, lawyers, and evaluators. Saunders found court professionals need more than generalized training in DV. They need specific knowledge that includes screening for DV, risk assessment, post-separation violence, and the impact of DV on children. Professionals without this information tend to focus on the myth that mothers frequently make false reports and unscientific alienation theories. This leads to recommendations and decisions that harm children. Saunders found DV advocates have more of the DV knowledge courts need than court professionals and most judges, lawyers and especially evaluators who do not have the DV expertise they need. Saunders recommends a multi-disciplinary approach that in potential DV cases must include a DV expert.

Fundamentally, without ACE, courts routinely minimize the harm from DV and child abuse and without Saunders they rely on the wrong professionals and so disbelieve true reports of abuse. Many standard court assumptions and practices were proven wrong by ACE and Saunders but continue to be relied on by courts.

Domestic violence is about control, including financial control. This means that in most DV cases most of the family’s financial resources are controlled by the abusive father. This factor led to the creation of the cottage industry of legal and mental health professionals who promote bogus theories such as alienation to help abusers gain custody. This financial advantage is a huge legal advantage and courts have been reluctant to use their authority to level the playing field. Abusers routinely use economic and litigation abuse to bankrupt their victims so that many victims wind up representing themselves. Courts do not seem to notice the tactics, use the information to recognize abusers’ motives, or take action to guarantee a fair trial. The superior economic resources of abusers result in judges and other court professionals hearing far more misinformation than the actual research that courts badly need.

The tilt is further encouraged by the response of attorneys. Lawyers for abusers are comfortable acting aggressively even when it misleads the court and places children in jeopardy. At the same time, many attorneys for mothers refuse or discourage their clients from presenting evidence or research about DV. Many courts have failed to understand mothers’ attempts to protect their children and have responded by punishing protective mothers who are the primary attachment figures for the children. Judges rarely consider that aside from missing true reports of abuse, the retaliation discourages lawyers from providing courts with the information needed to protect children in other cases.

The Meier Study is an outcome study designed to measure how courts respond to alleged DV, child abuse, and alienation. In the context of other research, Meier supports the conclusion that custody courts support abusive fathers far more than the evidence would justify. This is to be expected given the information discussed earlier.

In the last 15 years, a study from the Center for Judicial Excellence found over 900 children involved in contested custody have been murdered mostly by abusive fathers. In many cases, judges disbelieved or minimized reports of abuse and gave the killers the access they needed. The Bartlow Study asked judges and court administrators in the communities that suffered these murders what the court had done to make children safer in response to the local tragedy. The shocking answer was nothing because they all assumed the murder was an exception. I find it distressing that even the murder of a child does not overcome the defensiveness and insularity that has prevented needed reforms including the use of ACE and Saunders.

Children who physically survive their time controlled by custody courts are not out of the woods. Many of these children die in their teens or twenties from suicide or a drug overdose. Other children will later die early from cancer, heart disease or other diseases that are caused or exacerbated by the stress ACE focuses on. People who were never in custody court die from similar tragedies so we cannot know if an individual death was caused by the poor practices courts use in responding to abuse cases. There is no doubt, however, that many children’s lives are being ruined because courts are more willing to maintain the status quo than introduce ACE and Saunders.

I wrote an article based on a true story of a mother who saved her son by punching a mountain lion who attacked him. She was viewed as a heroine because the danger was from a wild animal instead of a wild abuser. The story illustrates the maternal instinct to protect children. Only in the courts that hurt children is this instinct viewed as harmful and severely punished. Some of the most heart wrenching stories I hear involve extreme decisions separating mothers from children and children from mothers. Courts make this tragic mistake because they are relying on flawed and biased practices. The Saunders Study and Kayden’s Law would tell courts of their mistake if only courts would consider scientific research instead of subjective opinions. Many, if not most, children will never recover from these extreme and retaliatory decisions. No judge wants to hurt children, but without the research they will continue to do so.

One of the reasons DV experts understand abuse issues better than other professionals is that we look at the patterns. Judges and court administrators miss the patterns because they are handling all custody cases. Most cases involve two good and loving parents and the standard court practices work well in those cases. This makes it harder for courts to recognize the 3.8% of contested custody cases that require a very different response. 75-90% of these cases are really DV cases in which an abusive father who often had limited involvement with the children during the relationship seeks custody or shared parenting (as a first step) to regain control and punish the victim for leaving.

It is a mistake to treat cases with two safe parents the same as cases with an alleged abuser. High conflict approaches are biased in favor of abusers because they create a false equivalency between victim and abuser. There is now a specialized body of knowledge and research that is needed in abuse cases, including to determine if there is abuse. Any attempt to decide possible abuse cases without the benefit of ACE and Saunders is malpractice.

Any effort to reform court practices in order to protect children must include ACE and Saunders. Many court officials seek to block any legislation they view as limiting their discretion. The National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges seeks to train other judges about ACE and Saunders because it goes to the essence of the well-being of children. I have never heard a judge or court administrator explain the justification for failing to make sure the knowledge in ACE and Saunders is used to understand these cases and protect children.

I don’t write this article out of anger or to criticize anyone. I am writing out of profound pain and sadness. The worst part of this work is the constant stream of preventable tragedies that never stop. We fight on a case-by-case basis, but as long as courts maintain the ignorant and biased practices that err on the side of protecting abusers and ruining children’s lives, the unbearable tragedies will continue. Please tell me how courts that hurt children can continue to try to respond without the benefit ACE and Saunders.

Barry Goldstein is a domestic violence author, speaker, advocate and expert witness. He is the author of six books concerning domestic violence and child custody. Barry is the author of the Safe Child Act which is a comprehensive plan based on current scientific research that can fix the broken court system and make family courts safe for children.

(Thanks to Veronica York for her suggestions that improved this article).


Healing through advocacy: Mother who survived deadly domestic violence attack shares story to save lives

Stephen Clare, 50, is accused of shooting his ex-wife and stabbing their two daughters. 11-month-old Willow Clare died from her injuries.

SAN ANTONIO — Trigger warning: details of this story are graphic.
For the first time, a San Antonio mother who survived a deadly domestic violence attack is opening to KENS 5.

Mariah Gardner hopes her story will save others from suffering a similar fate.
On April 10, police say Stephen Clare shot his ex-wife near her Alamo Heights home and stabbed their two daughters. 11-month-old Willow Clare died from her injuries.
“He wanted to continue the relationship, I did not,” said Gardner. “He was still trying to win me back. That morning, he dropped off flowers and a card. It basically said, ‘I still love you, let this day start our second chance.’ I said, ‘I really appreciate it,’ but gently told him no.”
Gardner says Clare never hit her … until he tried to kill her.

Read more here.


Keira’s Law: Turning Tragedy into Domestic Violence Advocacy

In February 2020, there was a happy-go-lucky little girl named Keira, who suffered a terrible fate. She was killed, and the murderer was her father, who did it as an act of revenge. Keira’s mother and stepfather, palliative care physician, Dr. Jennifer Kagan and family lawyer, Philip Viater, join us to discuss the legal reforms they have pursued around domestic violence, in hopes that no other family will have to experience the anguish they have.


Mother of teen killed in Salt Lake City murder-suicide pushed for Utah law to protect children

Just months before police say Leah Moses’ ex-husband killed her teenage son, Moses met with a Utah lawmaker to push for more stringent state protections for children at the center of child custody cases.

She and a group of others joined Sen. Todd Weiler to discuss sponsoring a Utah version of “Kayden’s Law,” which gives states that strengthen their child custody laws access to federal support intended for judges and other court officials to undergo domestic violence training.

Weiler was interested in the measure, but by the time the bill was drafted, it was late enough in the session that he didn’t believe it would pass, he told The Salt Lake Tribune. So Weiler decided to table the proposed legislation until 2024.

About two months after the session ended, Om Moses Gandhi was killed by his father in a murder-suicide on May 13, Salt Lake City police said — three weeks after a custody evaluator recommended that Moses receive full custody of the 16-year-old boy.

Read more here.


“Mass killers practice at home”: How domestic violence and mass shootings are linked

Before 20 children died in a shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School, and before 19 students died at Robb Elementary School, the shooters turned their guns on family members. The man who shot his five children, wife and mother-in-law in Enoch, Utah, in January had previously been investigated for allegedly choking his daughter. Just Friday, prosecutors said an Ohio man killed his three sons with a rifle and shot his wife as his daughter ran to get help.

As rates of gun violence increase in the United States, experts have identified a disturbing, decades-long trend: There’s a clear intersection between mass shootings and domestic violence toward family members.

More than half of mass shootings — those involving four or more victims — are “actually shootings of intimate partners and families,” said April Zeoli, Ph.D., an associate professor and the policy core director for the Institute for Firearm Injury Prevention at the University of Michigan. Zeoli studies the intersection of domestic violence, gun violence and policies aimed at curtailing both.

Even in cases where family members and partners are not killed, the perpetrators of mass shootings often have a history of domestic violence, she said.

Read more here.


Hours before Modesto dad allegedly killed daughter, judge granted restraining order against him

Just a few hours before a Modesto man allegedly killed his 8-year-old daughter, a judge approved a restraining order to protect her and her mother from him.

The girl’s mother petitioned for the restraining order Monday, it was approved by the judge Wednesday morning and proof of service was filed with the court at 4:15 p.m. About three hours later, the girl was dead, allegedly shot by her father, Donovan Halstead.

Two petitions for domestic violence restraining orders filed by the girl’s mother detail years of verbal and physical abuse and foreshadowed the horrors to come.

Read more here.


HOw Does FAMILY Really Work?

So you think you are ready for family court to help with the break up of your marraige, a custody dispute or allegations of domestic violence handled outside of police? 

In family court there are no juries, and you are probably going to need a lawyer to understand what is going on. For those who can’t afford a lawyer, you are going to spend a long time in the self- help line. There are words you won’t understand and processes that make no sense. If you have to represent yourself, a judge will tell you that you have to know the law, even if you have never been to law school.

The myth about community property ? That is easily avoided by claiming your ex is crazy or abusive. 

What matters most in family court? Your ex spouse’s lawyer and the assigngment of the judge. It only takes one spouse with a secret, or disgrace so great, they will pay a lawyer their life time savings  just to keep that secret from coming out. In family court there is no jury, and rarely is the media or public watching. 

Think you can’t afford a lawyer? They are going to get the money out of you someway. Retainers can run $50-100,000  and the lawyers are happy to put a lien on your house, bank accounts and paycheck to make sure they get paid. 

Any divorce or family law case will go the wrong direction with the right attorney. Divorce cases of lawyers and wealthy former spouses in Caliofrnia shows just how that looks. 

In San Diego, attorney Jeff Walker was overheard talking to his attorney buddy, Mike Young, about how to bury a domestic violence case and protect his law firm, back in 2015. Walker reportedly did not file for divorce until 2021. The six years of plotting allowed Walker to hide money from his wife through  his law firm. Money hidden in trust accounts and concealed files she would never find, or get half of. Walker told his lawyer buddies. 

In Silicon Valley, a former nanny married,  to wealthy real estate developer was approached by divorce attorneys Brad Baugh and Sharon Roper, claiming  they could get women more than their fair share in a divorce  by claiming a husband was abusive. The evil legal duo wrecked through the counnity. 

In Santa Clara County Jim Hoover was heard at WomenSV claiming he had billed $350,000 to a mother married to a a big real estate titan and never did any legal work as he threw her case. 

In Los Angeles, real estate attorney Reid Breitman was overheard telling  his attorney buddies how he would use his law firm to screw his former wife. For years before the divorce, Breitman reportedly set up slush funds with settlement money brought in by deals made with Thomas Giaradi. These deals included buying houses for attorneys and sitting judges and laundering money which the FBI did nothing about. Former Chief Justice Bigelow and divorce attorney Chrisphopher Melcher was in on the housing scam with Breitman from LA to Silicon Valley. 

These lawyers are drainig all the money from community estates and laundering much of it through their attorney trust accounts and equity found in the family homes of splitting spouses and their children. 

So how do these upper middle class families get wiped out in family court? This year, some folks have gotten together to explain how it works. 


Emotional Mom said Family Court Judge gave her child to a Violent Abuser and Pedophile!

Emotional Mom said Family Court Judge gave her child to a Violent Abuser and Pedophile!

Clark County Nevada

June 14, 2023

Veterans In Politics video interview of Jessica Church on Saturday, June 10, 2023 guest cohost Michael McDonald.

Here is a small breakdown of this powerful and emotional interview…. 

Church started the interview by stating that her child was given to a pedophile.

Church said that her daughter’s father has violated the court order for 50/50 custody and Judge Michele ‘Shell’ Mercer has ignored the contempt of court.

Church talks about her mother who allegedly had her children take naked photos of her.

Church said the Judge and Metro turned a blind eye to the anal fissure on her daughter.

Church said the doctors concluded that there is sexual assault of a minor who was 4 years old at the time of the abuse.

Church said that the lead investigator for Child Protective Services (CPS) refused to meet with her.

Church said that the father of her child a career criminal strangled her and left her in the woods for dead, who has a history of domestic violence charges.

Church said that Judge Mercer accused her of using drugs because she colored her hair.

Church claimed that she has never used drugs.

There were no supervised visits for the father.

Church very emotionally charged claimed that she has a secret recording of her daughter now six-year-old naming people who have sexually assaulted her.

Church said that Judge Mercer is having a secret meeting off the record in her chambers regarding an Order to Show Cause.

At the end of the interview, Church named everyone she believes participated in a sexual act against her daughter.

We don’t want to say anymore but this video described the events that took place.

Some of these claims are hard to believe but after investigating the litigant’s claims in family court for the past several years, nothing is hard to believe. 

Explosive Emotional and Powerful interview click on the link below: 

Jessica Church said a family court judge gave her kid to a domestic violence abuser and pedophile


55 things most people don’t know about healing from narcissistic abuse

55 things most people don’t know about healing from narcissistic abuse

Healing from narcissistic abuse is a journey that can be long and challenging. It’s not something that can be accomplished overnight, but with patience, self-care, and the right tools, it’s possible to overcome the trauma and move forward towards a healthier and happier life. 


What are the symptoms of narcissistic abuse?


Here are some symptoms of narcissistic abuse:


  • Intrusive, invasive, or unwanted thoughts
  • Flashbacks
  • Avoidance
  • Feelings of loneliness and isolation
  • Feeling extremely alert
  • Cognitive difficulties including confusion, hypervigilance, or intrusive thoughts
  • Behavioral issues including withdrawal
  • Physical symptoms such as appetite changes, trouble sleeping, fatigue, and stomach problems
  • Low self-worth
  • Heightened stress levels
  • Depression
  • Anxiety
  • Fear
  • Disorientation
  • Anger
  • Worthlessness or uselessness
  • Extreme irritability and feeling constantly on guard


Victims of narcissistic abuse may experience symptoms similar to PTSD, known informally as narcissistic abuse syndrome. It is important to seek professional help if you are experiencing any of these symptoms.


What do you need to know about healing from narcissistic abuse?


Here are 55 things about how to heal from narcissistic abuse that most people don’t know:

  1. Understand that narcissistic abuse is real and can have devastating effects on your life.
  2. Recognise the signs of narcissistic abuse, such as gaslighting, manipulation, and control.
  3. Seek professional help from a therapist who specialises in narcissistic abuse.
  4. Join a support group for survivors of narcissistic abuse.
  5. Practise self-compassion and self-care.
  6. Learn to set healthy boundaries.
  7. Recognise that the narcissist may never change, and it’s not your responsibility to try to change them.
  8. Take time to grieve the loss of the relationship, even if it was toxic.
  9. Don’t blame yourself for the abuse.
  10. Focus on your own healing and growth.
  11. Develop a support system of friends and family who believe and support you.
  12. Be patient with yourself and the healing process.
  13. Take time to reflect on the patterns in your relationships and how to break them.
  14. Allow yourself to feel your emotions, even the painful ones.
  15. Consider meditation or mindfulness practices to help you stay present.
  16. Recognise that healing from narcissistic abuse is not linear.
  17. Learn to trust your own instincts and intuition.
  18. Develop healthy coping mechanisms to manage stress and anxiety.
  19. Practice forgiveness, not for the narcissist but for yourself.
  20. Let go of the need to seek closure from the narcissist.
  21. Recognize that the narcissist may try to hoover you back into the relationship.
  22. Journal your thoughts and feelings to help process the trauma.
  23. Seek legal advice if necessary.
  24. Remember that it’s okay to say “no” to the narcissist.
  25. Learn to identify your triggers and how to manage them.
  26. Don’t isolate yourself from others.
  27. Recognize that healing from narcissistic abuse can take time.
  28. Be open to new experiences and relationships.
  29. Remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.
  30. Don’t compare yourself to others.
  31. Seek validation from within, not from the narcissist.
  32. Practice self-love and self-acceptance.
  33. Remember that healing is a process, not a destination.
  34. Don’t let the narcissist make you doubt your reality.
  35. Learn to detach emotionally from the narcissist.
  36. Take time for self-reflection and introspection.
  37. Don’t try to change the narcissist.
  38. Focus on building healthy relationships.
  39. Be kind to yourself.
  40. Recognize that healing from narcissistic abuse is not a sign of weakness.
  41. Learn to express your needs and wants.
  42. Practice self-compassion and self-forgiveness.
  43. Surround yourself with positive people who uplift you.
  44. Remember that the abuse is not your fault.
  45. Practice gratitude and focus on the positive things in your life.
  46. Develop a self-care routine.
  47. Learn to trust yourself again.
  48. Don’t allow the narcissist to make you feel guilty.
  49. Remember that you have the power to heal.
  50. Don’t rush the healing process.
  51. Learn to communicate assertively.
  52. Don’t let the narcissist control your life.
  53. Practice self-acceptance and self-love.
  54. Seek out new hobbies and interests.
  55. Remember that healing is a journey, not

Healing from narcissistic abuse is a long and difficult process, but it is possible. The first step is to recognize that you have been abused and that you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity. Once you have made this realisation, you can begin to take steps to heal.


One of the most important things you can do is to create a support system of people who will believe you and support you. This could include friends, family, therapists, or support groups. It is also important to take care of yourself physically and emotionally. This could include eating healthy, exercising, and getting enough sleep. It is also important to find healthy ways to cope with your emotions, such as journaling, talking to a therapist, or practising mindfulness.


Healing from narcissistic abuse takes time, but it is possible. With the right support, you can overcome the abuse and rebuild your life.


How to find a therapist who specialises in narcissistic abuse recovery


Here are some ways to find a therapist who specialises in narcissistic abuse recovery:

  1. Use online directories: Websites like Psychology Today and GoodTherapy allow you to search for therapists by location and specialty, including narcissistic abuse recovery.
  2. Ask for referrals: Reach out to friends, family members, or support groups for recommendations on therapists who specialise in narcissistic abuse recovery.
  3. Contact domestic violence hotlines: Domestic violence hotlines can provide you with resources and referrals to therapists who specialise in narcissistic abuse recovery.
  4. Research therapists: Look up therapists in your area and read their bios to see if they specialise in narcissistic abuse recovery. You can also check their credentials and experience.
  5. Consider online therapy: Online therapy platforms like BetterHelp and Talkspace offer access to licensed therapists who specialise in narcissistic abuse recovery from the comfort of your own home.


Remember that finding the right therapist is important, so take the time to research and ask questions before committing to a therapist.


What are some questions to ask a therapist before starting treatment for healing from narcissistic abuse


Here are some questions to ask a therapist before starting treatment for narcissistic abuse recovery:


  1. What is your experience in treating clients who have experienced narcissistic abuse?
  2. What is your approach to therapy, and how do you think it can help me in my recovery?
  3. How long do you think it will take for me to see progress in my recovery?
  4. What kind of therapy do you recommend for my specific situation?
  5. How will you help me set goals and track my progress in therapy?
  6. How will you help me cope with any setbacks or challenges that may arise during my recovery?
  7. How will you ensure that I feel safe and supported during our therapy sessions?


Remember that finding the right therapist is important, so take the time to ask questions and make sure you feel comfortable with the therapist before starting treatment.

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Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

What is narcissistic abuse?

Narcissistic abuse refers to a pattern of manipulative behaviors employed by someone with narcissistic personality disorder to control and dominate their victims emotionally, psychologically, or even physically.

How do narcissists manipulate their victims?

Narcissists employ various manipulative tactics such as gaslighting, belittling, guilt-tripping, and creating a false reality to exert control over their victims.

Is healing from narcissistic abuse possible?

Yes, healing from narcissistic abuse is possible with time, effort, and the right support system. It’s a journey of self-discovery and rebuilding one’s life.

Can therapy be helpful for healing from narcissistic abuse?

Yes, therapy can play a crucial role in the healing process. It provides a safe space for victims to process their experiences, gain validation, learn coping strategies, and rebuild their sense of self.

How can survivors rebuild their self-esteem after narcissistic abuse?

Rebuilding self-esteem requires self-compassion, challenging negative self-talk, setting boundaries, and surrounding oneself with positive and supportive influences.

Is it normal to have setbacks during the healing journey?

Yes, setbacks are a common part of the healing process.

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What Is Quanta Freedom Healing?

I didn’t grow up dreaming of becoming a Quanta Freedom Healer! It was a long journey to get to where I am today, and one I would never have taken had I not been completely broken by abuse.

Today I want to tell you a little about that journey, and explain all about what Quanta Freedom Healing is, and how it came about.

This will help you to understand why Quanta Freedom Healing can work for you, even if you feel hopeless, helpless and as though you’ve already tried everything possible to heal from abuse – I felt that way too!

Most of all, I want to give you hope that you can not only recover from your pain, but you can create a life that is even more fulfilled, joyful and expanded than before the narcissist came into your life – the life you deserve!



Video Transcript

Today, I will answer a question that many of you have asked: What is Quanta Freedom Healing? To explain it as best as I can, I need to explain how it came about, because it’s not like I knew I was going to become a Quanta Freedom healer. I certainly didn’t.


The Breakdown Epiphany Moment

Like a lot of us, I went through significant narcissistic abuse. At that time, I was researching narcissism, and a specialist was helping me understand who the man in my life was.

Even though I also joined post-traumatic stress disorder groups and narcissistic abuse forums and was getting answers about narcissism, I was still hooked. I was obsessing and ruminating, and I couldn’t stop breaking No Contact. Eventually, I had a complete psychotic and adrenal breakdown.

I’d already lost much property, reputation and the ability to function normally. I hadn’t eaten or slept properly for six months. I was only 80 pounds. All of my hair had fallen out. I was already in a really bad state. When the breakdown happened, I honestly believed the professionals who told me I’d never recover or return from it.

I started planning how to leave the planet because I didn’t want to go on. While thinking about how to do that, I had a voice in my head that kept saying to me, “No, there’s another way. There’s another way.”

I was arguing with this voice, and then I walked into my bathroom and fell to the floor. I put my hands up and screamed, “I can’t do this anymore. Help me.” I was calling out to God, a Higher Power, and I didn’t know what else to do.

At that moment, I had a profound experience: it was like my head opened, and everything I’d previously believed was sucked out of me. What entered into its place was a this deep, powerful knowing, and a voice spoke to me, telling me what had happened; why it had happened; how this person was a catalyst in my life who was showing me all the parts of myself that were unhealed and unconscious; and that it wasn’t about him – rather it was about healing me.

Then I got catapulted into the future. I saw and felt myself as healed, whole and Thriving, and I felt like I’d never felt ever before. Then I got flung back into who I was, emaciated, shaking, sweating. I wasn’t healed, but I knew I could heal. I’d been told how to start this from the inside out, and that I would be supported in this journey.

I chose that path from that day. The voice had instructed me to turn within, to speak to myself as if I loved myself like a small child. Something astounding happened. The intense psychotic episodes disappeared without the need for medication. Then synchronicity started happening. I met people and got downloads, information and clues about inner healing modalities, which I’d never looked at before, even though I’d been doing personal development and spirituality for decades.

Then I studied Theta Healing, Kinesiology and EFT and other modalities. I became certified, and started putting together a combination of tools to heal myself, which at the time I called “Holographic Healing”. I was getting really good results. Complicated Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (C-PTSD) was melting away. I was starting to feel more connected and more whole than I’d ever felt before, in spite of my losses.


The Breakthrough Healing Moment

However, I had a persistent agoraphobia that made me feel unsafe in open spaces due to the trauma of narcissistic abuse. I was trying everything I could to heal myself. I was researching quantum physics and neuroscience and trying to assemble protocols. I was outsourcing the best of the best healers without success in shifting it. It happened that a girlfriend was going to Ko Samui, but I couldn’t go with her. She told me, “Come later,” but I was worried about how I’d manage the trip alone since I have agoraphobia and can’t even go to the shop without becoming a meltdown.

Despite this, I knew I had to go. So I did, and it was one of the most traumatising experiences of my life. I eventually got there, collapsed into her arms, and we went to the resort, where I felt safe again. After that, I could enjoy the holiday, but I still wanted to get out into Ko Samui, and I knew I couldn’t.

One day, alone in the hotel room, I set an intention that I was going to channel the healing answer to my agoraphobia. I opened up my heart, mind, and soul and immediately I started taking dictation. I was writing down protocols and healing steps. They were things that I knew in regard to Kinesiology and Theta Healing, but there were also things that I didn’t know, which were a deeper timeline aspect, more compartments of the subconscious to access. And there were also Source downloads that were much more impactful, richer, and bigger than I’d been used to.

Even though I didn’t know the details, I had goosebumps when they came to me (you may understand what I’m saying). I applied the first-ever Quanta Freedom Healing to myself, and two hours later, I was in Ko Samui, more playful, confident and connected to people than I had ever been my entire life. I knew something astounding had just happened.

I returned to Melbourne and stopped doing Holographic Healing with my clients. I said, “No, we’re doing Quanta Freedom Healing.” I discovered that their deep, persistent trauma was shifting as well.

Many of my clients had other therapists, psychologists, or domestic violence workers, and these therapists rang me up and asked, ” My client today was different than yesterday. What happened?” Then they came to see me for a Quanta Freedom Healing – because a lot of practitioners have got their own trauma too.

Through word of mouth, my business exploded. I had more clients than I could handle, and I knew I needed to create a healing program because news of Quanta Freedom Healing spread overseas. People that couldn’t even get to me were contacting for sessions.

Since its birth 15 years ago, the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program has helped tens of thousands of people from 150 different countries worldwide heal and release inner trauma with the Quanta Freedom Healing modules. I also have other programs that have been instrumental in helping people achieve this goal.

Before I explain more about Quanta Freedom Healing, it’s important for me to explain why healing from the inside out is vital.


Why Can’t We Heal Logically?

We know from our real-life experience that the obsession and the rumination that goes with narcissistic abuse are crazy. What ends up happening is that we are doing “stinking thinking”. We’re trying to think out of our obsessional thinking and get an answer or information that will give us closure and peace, but it just doesn’t work.

Why doesn’t it work? The reason is because the seat of our trauma and our painful programs is in our body. They’re not in our head. Wonderful neuroscientists such as Joe Dispenza, Bruce Lipton, the late Candace Pert, and others, are now explaining to the world why the brain follows the body.

For example, I want you to say, “I think devastated,” and feel into it, then follow it up with “I think traumatised.”

These statements are disconnected. They’re like caveman talk. These statements should be, “I feel devastated. I feel traumatised,” because they’re going on in your body.

You cannot get into your body and heal logically – that’s like trying to access your television from a radio frequency. When we are in our head we are not healing what’s going on inside of us. Rather, we’re thinking about what hurts, causing more identification with our trauma, which makes it worse.

Now let’s look at trying to recover logically from another angle. What if you were hit by a car, lying on the road, bleeding, and people yelled at you to get up? Or went after the driver, and start tracking and researching him? You would not heal and may not survive. Ask yourself how many times have you told yourself to get on with it, or researched narcissism without attending to your inner wounds? Only inner healing heals your inner wounds, no different to physical wounds needing attention.

Just because you can’t see your inner trauma doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. We have yet to realise that our inner emotional system is as powerful as our inner physical system when given the right environment and conditions to produce healing.

Now imagine you had an abscess and tried to put some cream and a bandage over it. It’s not going to get better. Lancing it and releasing the toxic infection creates space inside to heal. It’s exactly the same with internal trauma – it has to be released to create space for healing. Quanta Freedom Healing is incredibly effective because it does this. Whereas trying to ‘think’ it out keeps the trauma trapped inside.



What Is Quanta Freedom Healing?

Quanta Freedom Healing is the core component of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) and my other healing programs. These are audio healings that can be accessed from any device. Quanta Freedom Healing takes you into a deep theta brainwave, which bypasses the logical brain, to access inside your body, even if you’ve been struggling with rumination and obsession.

This level of healing is not just relaxation, it has intentions and energetic codes that access your subconscious. All you have to do open up, breathe, and follow my voice, and a few simple instructions. In fact, the less you do, the better the process works on you.

Quanta Freedom Healing loads up the trauma from different parts of your subconscious and releases it, which frees space inside you to receive the download of the True Source replacement, on whatever topic you’re working on. That gives you a shift out of  Who you were being, into your Higher Self potential on that topic.

This feels like relief, a release. It feels like space. Where that trauma once was, there is now the space for the healing – which is inspiration, outer solution and support – to enter. It’s the calm, the power and the wisdom to know what to do. As you get better on the inside, you do so much better on the outside. Support, synchronicity and miracle start to enter your life. Resolution and solution come in greater ways than you could imagine possible.

Narcissists can’t stand against with regular Quanta Freedom Healing work.  They’re a False Self in a lower consciousness of deceit and darkness. You have become a bright Light; fearless, with Source partnering you, no longer handing over narcissistic supply (fear and pain). With Quanta Freedom Healing, narcissists stop harassing you, leave your experience, capitulate, lose against you in court. You win custody, get good settlements, alienated children return to you. These breakthroughs and much more are common occurrences in our Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) Community.

Quanta Freedom Healing grants you a much deeper tool than the logical, practical experience that we’ve been trying to use to heal from abuse. Thank goodness, because narcissistic abuse is a battle for your soul! You know its spiritual – the insane feelings of being psychically infiltrated and having your life-force sucked out of you is not logical and practical.

Deep inner somatic healing is spiritual. It’s where healing has to take place.

We need a deeper healing solution.


Usual Quanta Freedom Healing Timeframes

Most people, from the first healing, feel it. If you’ve done a Quanta Freedom Healing you know that you feel relief, space and better. Generally, within one to three weeks, the obsessive rumination will start to calm down enough that you can eat, sleep, and function. Within one to three months, so much of your trauma will have melted, relieving disorders like Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, fibromyalgia, adrenal malfunction, anxiety, depression, and triggers.

Most people’s lives are unrecognisable within 6 to 18 months. They have rebooted emotionally, mentally, spiritually, financially, and physically in ways that they weren’t able to access even before the abuse, even if abuse is all they’ve ever known. They’re living abuse-free lives and thriving in their new lives, regardless of what they lost and left behind in the past.


Who is Quanta Freedom Healing For?

It doesn’t matter your age, gender, sexual orientation, or religious preference, whether you left 40 years ago or are still with this person. The person could be a lover, intimate partner, spouse, family member, friend, neighbour, or child – Quanta Freedom Healing is unconditional because it focuses on the trauma inside of you that is making you sick, hooked, and stuck in abuse programs.


Support With Quanta Freedom Healing

The healings work in a way that revolutionises how we heal. There is no more requirement to bash pillows and scream out wounds, or decipher and investigate your childhood logically for years to try to heal. Rather, with Quanta Freedom Healing, your body is signalled to “light up” the dense energy, then you simply feel it without information, follow my voice to let it go, replace it with The Light and experience life-changing shifts in minutes, as opposed to decades of work.

With the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP), as well as many additional resources, there is a Global Forum of Super Thrivers from all over the world, there for you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year to lovingly support you and grant you true healing solutions.

In our wonderful NARP Community, we have seen it all – any inner and outer issue that you are struggling with. Also, unconscious abusers all do the same stuff and it’s highly predictable. We can guide you and let you know what’s coming up and how to get through it. We know how to do this quickly, powerfully and in the least painful and most empowering way no matter WHAT you are going through.

All of the incredible NARP Community Forum support comes completely free with your NARP program.

I hope you now have a much better understanding of the super-tool, Quanta Freedom Healing, which is responsible for us granting leading edge abuse and trauma recovery, worldwide. I most of all I want you to have hope that there is a way to heal for real.



At MTE we are thrilled about these results, that we live personally and share every day with people. It’s so much easier, more supportive and loving to heal this way.

It was important for me to make Quanta Freedom Healing and the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program as accessible as I could to as many people as possible. This is why I made the price of this complete life-time healing system a once only payment less than the usual price of three hours of therapy. I’ve also given you a small monthly payment option – with full access to all resources and unlimited time community support immediately.

Plus, I take all of the risk for you to try it. There’s a complete money back guarantee for you to try the life-changing Quanta Freedom Healing Modules in the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program, and if you don’t receive spectacular results, with one email to you can receive a full refund of your money with no questions asked.

So, I hope that I’ve explained Quanta Freedom Healing and why trying to survive abuse and trauma has been so painful and hard. Narcissistic abuse doesn’t have to be a life sentence.

If you’d love to heal from abuse and expand into more success on every topic, I’d love to help you. Here is the link to NARP, and also you can read people’s Quanta Freedom Healing success stories here.

Let me know in the comments whether my explanation for Quanta Freedom Healing today makes sense. Also, if any of our lovely Thrivers would like to share their explanation or experience of Quanta Freedom Healing, please do!

I look forward to answering your questions and comments below.