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The Simplest Way To Spot Narcissistic Personality Disorder



The Simplest Way To Spot Narcissistic Personality Disorder
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People often get confused about what precisely counts as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). (By the way, it should never be capitalized when you’re using the full name of the diagnosis.)

Here, I explain in simple terms, what the core of all pathological narcissism is, based on decades of research. I also help you understand the difference between narcissism, narcissist, and NPD (they’re not the same concepts), and the problems with looking for a *lack of empathy* as a core feature. *Psychopaths* lack empathy; narcissists, even those with NPD, have empathy * impairments*, which can be confusing for their loved ones who see flashes of empathy. Hence the whole struggle “are they a narcissist (with NPD) or aren’t they. Just because you see moments of empathy doesn’t mean the person you’re with isn’t a pathological narcissist.

Remaining focused on the core of all pathological narcissism, what I call EEE, or Triple E, can help you remain vigilant to the most important signs that narcissism has tipped into the range of disorder and isn’t merely a trait anymore. And that can help you better understand what you’re seeing.

And about Triple E: I’d like to clarify something. In the video, I stumbled a bit (I do these videos extemporaneously, in one take, for efficiency) in describing exploitation. What I meant to say, simply is that exploitation is doing whatever it take to meet our needs, no matter what the cost to others.

You can see how exploitation is such a core part of disordered narcissism. In fact, together exploitation and entitlement (or EE, in the research, which is where I got the inspiration for EEE), account for just about every destructive behavior pathological narcissists demonstrate.

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Are You an Echoist?



Are you An Echoist?
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Recently, I’ve been inundated with requests from journalists to discuss “echoism,” a term I introduced in my book, Rethinking Narcissism. Articles on the subject are trending, and a new book, Echoism, even devotes itself to understanding the topic in depth. Echoism support groups, therapists, and workshops are springing up, and demand for information appears to be growing. But what does the word mean? 

I’ve compiled my answers to nine of the most frequently asked questions about echoism. 

1. What is echoism? Echoism is a trait that my colleagues and I have begun measuring, and like all traits, it exists to a greater or lesser degree in everyone. People who score well above average in echoism qualify as echoists, and their defining characteristic is a fear of seeming narcissistic in any way. Of all the people we measured, echoists were the most “warm-hearted,” but they were also afraid of becoming a burden, felt unsettled by attention, especially praise, and agreed with statements like, “When people ask me my preferences, I’m often at a loss.” Where narcissists are addicted to feeling special, echoists are afraid of it. In the myth of Narcissus, Echo, the nymph who eventually falls madly in love with Narcissus, has been cursed to repeat back the last few words she hears. Like their namesake, echoists definitely struggle to have a voice of their own. 

2. Can echoism exist without narcissism? Regardless of how it begins — and there are many childhood causes — echoism, like any trait, persists regardless of whom people spend their time with. Still, echoists are often drawn to narcissists precisely because they’re so afraid of burdening others or seeming “needy” that to have someone who relishes taking up all the room, as narcissists often do, comes as something of a relief; but it’s a high price to pay for a respite from their anxieties. When narcissists become abusive, echoists sometimes blame themselves for their mistreatment (“I expect too much”; “I’m being overly sensitive”; “I shouldn’t have gone back”; etc.). No one deserves to be abused, whether they stay in a relationship or not — abuse is 100 percent the responsibility of the abuser — but echoists can mire themselves in abusive relationships, because they feel responsible for their mistreatment. 

3. Are some people more apt to become extreme echoists? Echoists appear to be born with more emotional sensitivity than most of us — they feel deeply — and when that temperament is exposed to a parent who shames or punishes them for having any needs at all, they’re apt to grow up high in echoism. A client of mine had a narcissistic father who grew enraged whenever people didn’t do exactly what he wanted — a misplaced dish was enough to set him off — and as a result of his lessons (my way or the highway), she wasn’t just afraid to say what she needed or wanted. She didn’t even know what that was. This is typical with extreme echoists — they’re so afraid expressing their needs will cost them love that they lose touch with their own desires. 

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For more on echoism, see:
www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/tech-support/201810/unloved-daughters-why-the-term-echoism-may-help-you-heal
blogs.psychcentral.com/knotted/2018/11/when-youre-not-narcissistic-enough-meet-the-echoist/
tonic.vice.com/en_us/article/mby3pv/echoists-are-basically-the-opposite-of-narcissists?fbclid=IwAR0czRJEb30wRRq-0sXhKWc2u1aMgOgzf5I5CRKEWAXG-oU6PvMRKq8wLM4

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What’s the Most Important Difference Between Overt and Covert Narcissism?



00:00 Intro
00:32 Covert vs Overt narcissism: Clarifying the Confusion
01:11 Main difference between covert and overt narcissism

What’s the Most Important Difference Between Overt and Covert Narcissism?

Overt (extroverted) and covert (introverted) narcissism are often confused with one another and generally misunderstood. In this video I review the differences and illustrate how to distinguish between the two different types of narcissism.

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Why Is There So Much Overlap in Cluster B Disorders?



0:00 Intro
0:42 Why is there overlap in Cluster B Disorders?
1:41 Borderline organization and character traits in Cluster B Disorders
4:28 Causes of overlap between Cluster B Disorders

Why Is There So Much Overlap in Cluster B Disorders?

As our understanding of narcissistic, psychopathic and borderline personalities emerged and grew through research and study, the lines that separated them blurred; what we have today, instead, are “Cluster B Disorders”. In this video I review the similarities and differences between them, and explain the overlap in their descriptions, presentations, and behaviors.

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Another Narcissistic Defense: Emotion Phobia



0:00 Intro
0:39 What is emotion phobia in narcissism?
1:43 What causes emotion phobia?
2:20 How does emotion phobia look in extraverted narcissists?
3:28 How does emotion phobia look in introverted narcissists?
5:19 The pattern of emotion phobia across all forms of narcissism

Another Narcissistic Defense: Emotion Phobia

Emotion phobia generally appears across all forms of narcissism, and it’s a reliable early warning sign of narcissistic behaviors. In this video I discuss how emotion phobia presents, how to detect it, and what drives it.

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Narcissists and the Twin Fantasy



0:00 Intro
0:31 What is the twin fantasy?
1:14 How do narcissists engage the twin fantasy?
4:25 Recognizing narcissism in the twin fantasy
6:23 The twin fantasy vs authentic relationship: knowing the difference

Narcissists and the Twin Fantasy

In healthy relationships, the twin fantasy can be a fun way to find, imagine, and celebrate similarities and points of agreement; but with a narcissist there’s no room to acknowledge, let alone, enjoy *any* differences within the fantasy. In this video, I discuss how narcissists rigidly engage in the twin fantasy and describe a test to alert you to red flags in the early stages of a relationship.

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How to Cope with Communal Narcissism



0:00 Intro
0:30 What is communal narcissism?
5:49 how do you manage communal narcissism—in yourself and others?

How to Cope with Communal Narcissism

The very notion of communal narcissism may seem impossible, but you’d surprised how many people fit this new brand of narcissism. In this video I explain just how communal narcissism works and some ways you can address it in yourself and others.

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The One Strategy That Will Never Work with a Narcissistic Partner



0:00 Intro
0:59 What is Triple P?
3:25 What happens in the cycle of Triple P?
6:30 How to break the cycle of Triple P—for yourself or others

The One Strategy That Will Never Work with a Narcissistic Partner

When faced with the inevitable reactions of a narcissistic partner during times of stress or struggle, people often resort to Triple P for self-preservation. In this video I explain how to break this cycle and begin using effective strategies to deal with your relationship in a healthier way.

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The 3 Biggest Dangers in a Narcissistic Relationship



0:00 Intro
0:33 How do you recognize danger in a relationship?
1:32 The most—and least—important information to look for
2:37 What are the 3 stop signs?

The 3 Biggest Dangers in a Narcissistic Relationship

Regardless of the root cause, there are 3 simple signs that should alert you to whether or not you’re in a dangerously unhealthy relationship. In this video I explain the three stop signs— and how to recognize them.

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Why Exploitation and Entitlement in Narcissism are so Destructive



0:00 Intro
0:52 Review of EE
2:55 What does the research teach us about exploitation, entitlement, and narcissism?
5:38 What does EE predict in narcissistic personalities?

Why Exploitation and Entitlement In Narcissism Are So Destructive

Exploitation and entitlement are the two most destructive aspects of narcissistic personality. These, along with empathy impairments, create risky—and even dangerous—relationships. In this video I review what EE is, and how it shapes narcissistic personality on multiple levels.

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